while she could be shallow, there's also the chance that the height difference actually makes her feel insecure. Some guys tend to treat girls that are taller than them as though they are less feminine simply because they are a few inches higher. Like the height difference somehow challenges their own masculinity. I'm 6' myself and any time I've dated a guy who was shorter than me, the height difference made me feel awkward, either because the guy made an issue of it or because the people around us did. In high school, one guy broke up with me because he couldn't stand the constant teasing and snide remarks about our height difference. It made him incredibly self conscious which in turn made me self conscious. Since then, I've noticed a difference in the way I'm treated by guys who are shorter than me. It isn't always a bad thing (some guys even prefer it) but its always there. It's enough to make me hesitate a bit before pursuing a relationship with someone shorter than me. The fact that this girl confessed to having feelings for OP means that she could actually want a relationship with him but is afraid that the height difference could make things awkward. She could be bringing up the topic simply to gauge his reaction, hoping he'll say that the height difference wouldn't be an issue at all. If OP really likes this girl, he should ask her whether she really sees their difference in height as a barrier or if she is just afraid that he does. Maybe I'm overly optimistic, but I wouldn't write her off as a shallow person based on a single comment.

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...and some of us men dig taller chicks... Still mostly I have dated women smaller than me... I can't comprehend with people like that, having feelings and knowing each other is more important than the height related preferences.

Long post but she raises a fair point. It's easy for young girls to feel insecure for dating outside the norm, especially if their peers are going to act like they're doing something wrong!

agreed...as a short guy, agreed.

But the thing is, its easier to lose weight than it is to gain height.

19, except people on here are disproving your argument. People seem to be just as upset that the girl doesn't want to date op based on height, then if a guy didn't want to date a girl because of weight. Everyone is saying she's shallow and that op "dodged a bullet," which are the same things that have been said in past fml's when some guy has refused to date a girl, or made fun of her, because of her weight.

Not for some people. For some it's practically impossible to lose weight. It's unfortunate and she really shouldn't have said anything if she really didn't plan to date him but the fact she doesn't want a guy shorter than her is her preference. It's the same if a guy said he didn't want a girl taller than him. You can't help your height but not everyone will be able to be in a relationship with you and they aren't bad for that. Just try to find someone that likes that or doesn't care.

Well that's a generalisation, not all the girls who aren't attracted to short guys are fat girls complaining about nobody liking them. And everyone is entitled to choose for themselves who they want to date, doesn't affect me, I wouldn't want to date someone not physically attracted to me anyway.

It's not fully a masculinity thing.. Some people just prefer taller people, boys AND girls. Some prefer shorter. Some don't care. It's the same with weight, hair length, anything with appearance.

Here's my theory, it says she didn't want to date because she's a couple inches taller. Couple = two Maybe what they really meant to say was: That's "two" bad. It's sort of a long shot, but that's the only conclusion I came to.

Or what I meant to say was that she said she's too tall, thus too and not two.

I think that's a stretch, .... Or maybe not?