News to me

By Anonymous - 14/12/2009 00:28 - United States

Today, I was texting my friend. He has a history of depression, which we were talking about, and somehow, he turned the conversation to, "If we ever broke up, I would kill myself." I didn't even know we were even going out. FML
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Reality_bites 14

I know he's your friend but it appears he really needs professional help. Assuming that you have never discussed being a couple, it now appears that not only is he suffering from depression but he has created a whole fantasy land within his head that you are somehow going out. And that is not a good sign.

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koalasloverain 0

Oh wow. That's kind of intense. I'm really sorry. I hope you found a tactful way to tell him that he was mistaken... good luck.

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tmnt18 0

Been there.. explain how you feel and ask where he got the idea. See if being just friends will work. If not do not feel guilty if anything happens. It's not your fault. Of course if you like him date him.. since apparently you already are. Good luck!!

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AngelofMercy 0

Yeah mine was about that bad for a while in high school....Still almost as bad, and I don't doubt that I'd be tempted if I got dumped right now...:( But still- I now realize how awful it is to say things like that....It really puts a lot of pressure on the person in your position...Pressure and fear for your safety.D:

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AngelofMercy 0

Oh and in case anyone was wondering, I have told two people in the past that yeah, I would basically kill myself if they left... and I was serious at the time. I was also unaware of how wrong it was for me to say those kinds of things... I did try once, and was close to trying again, but obviously, it didn't work. Lots of vomit though....But yes. What I'm saying is that sometimes people -do- say something beforehand.

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AngelofMercy 0

That's what I keep telling the guy I'm dating....FML. Hahaha

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driedpeaches 0

I always tell my girlfriends, "If you ever break up with me, I'm going to kill YOU"

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xxreikoxx 31

Ugh...like that's any better... "Let's just use scare tactics to keep our relationship(s) going, such as threaten to kill." Have you pimps no shame in your pitiful actions these days..? -_-+

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sikkamorrdubstar 0

this is trademark manipulative behavior. he just muscled you into a relationship lol FYL

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plzdunstpdamusic 0

My assumption, because of lack of information, is that he started the conversation about his depression so that he could force you into a relationship. He probably said that so that you would be hesitant to say that you weren't going out with him.

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Flutist 3

^this. I don't think he counts as your friend if he is just trying to manipulate you. I think Op, you need to leave him alone for a while, tell him you care about his life, but you do not want to date him. Be firm, you are worthy of life, you need to love yourself before you get into a relationship. I am not ready to be with someone romantically who is using their illness/condition to take advantage of me. If you "love me" then stop trying to guilt me into being with you. I am your friend, but I am not responsible for your crimes, your bad days, or your life. You have to take responsibility. I am not personally able to handle being romantically involved with a man who says he is going to kill himself. Then, you tell him, if you can't stop manipulating me then we can't talk for a while.

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lmr4893 0

It's bad enough when people do that when they're in an actual relationship but then to put you in that situation and you weren't in a relationship? yeah that's messed up.

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Firesprite2009 0

OP, he needs help. Don't let him just be another statistic on the wall charts. If no-one gets him help, then he could put both of your lives in danger, if you try to 'break up' with him. Running won't solve much, because then you'll just be acting like a really shit person by abandoning him. Try and get him to a psychiatrist as quickly as possible so he can sort his life out, and in the process, you can get on with yours. xx

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smarties25 0

well....it actully depends how u feel about him ?? if you've been friends for along time maybe you should take it to the next level.??

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