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By NotTheMomma - 22/07/2016 14:06

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Today, I've stopped smoking, lost 30 pounds, taken several painful tests, and checked my ovulation daily in an effort to get pregnant. My husband has only had one task during the entire process, and after hours of gaming, he says he's just too tired to have sex. FML
I agree, your life sucks 18 711
You deserved it 1 947

Same thing different taste

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Sorry OP. Those are awesome achievements and they say a lot about your character and devotion. Hopefully you will be a mother soon! Good luck with your husband!

Some people do change after having a kid, that's true. However, quite a few don't, and to put a child in a potentially less than desirable situation with an uninvolved, uncaring father, that's just very unfair to the kid.

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Maybe he just wasn't in the mood at that particular time?

Ovulation doesn't wait for everyone to be in the mood. If he's agreed to try there are times he needs to be ready to go.

you're absolutely right. I should just never have another opinion. or rather, I'll not voice it.

The ovulation cycle isn't a "once in a lifetime" thing though. If he isn't up to it, he isn't up to it - simple as that. He doesn't "need" to do anything, because making someone have sex with you when they don't to is a no-no, even if we assume they mutually agreed to try for a child.

Well, the quitting smoking and losing weight ones are good anyhow so congrats on that

Raising a kid takes a lot more effort than having sex.

How are OP and her husband going to raise a kid they don't have? That's why OP wants to have sex to get pregnant, have a child, and become a mother and parent. Unless you mean they should adopt. Then no sex is needed.

I think 46 meant that if OP's husband is (regularly) "too tired" to have sex, what kind of parent is he going to be?

Everyone here seems like they're jumping to conclusions, (I'm assuming this is talking about one night) it sounds like your husband just didn't want to have sex in the moment.

Could you please read the fml post again and take this into consideration. OP said "during the entire process." Meaning that OP's husband has used the tired after gaming for many hours more than once. If OP's husband doesn't want to have a child or children, he should be honest with his wife and tell her instead of avoiding sex with his too tired excuse.

Actually, what OP is saying is out of everything that was done for preparation, all he had to do is bring the penis and he didn't do that.

I'm confused because I didn't read anywhere that OP suggested her husband wasn't considerate of what she's going through as many comments are saying. All she said is her husband was too tired for sex, given, if he was only gaming all day then he shouldn't be tired but OP really is missing a lot of details here. Hopefully everything gets cleared up but if he does refuse sex often from being "too tired" then talk to him. If he has low testosterone it will kill his sex drive and make him tired even without doing anything. Some guys are also turned off by the whole "baby making" idea. I know it freaked my husband out the first time.lol.

beetregeneration 4

I don't know if he or you are into it, or you still need him to do his part, but I would say take the lead on that joy ride. Ripping clothes off and digging your nails in, I mean if you have been working your ass of and he falls short, then keep working your ass off. I would get me and worry about his lazy ass later

boredgirl_02 14

Yeah I got a personal trainer, spent soo much money on that and fertility specialists, had surgery and taking stupid ovulation tests and he just wants me to suck his penis..... So I get your struggle

I'm sure there's an explanation for his behavior, and OP is just feeling frustrated in the moment... but, OP, if that's not the case, reevaluate having a baby with a man who won't even go through the effort of making one. Is this what you can expect when the baby gets a cold or you do?

If gaming is more important than sex etc ,...might wanna rethink being parents

Congrats on your accomplishments but I would be concerned if hubby doesn't want to share his joystck. Remember, sharing is caring.