She didn't say she knew his password. I don't know my boyfriend's password, but that doesn't mean I've never been on his Facebook account. We share computers a lot - when one of ours breaks, or we don't feel like getting it, etc. If I get on his computer, and he hasn't logged out of FB, then I'm magically in his account. We've come to a truce on changing each other's statuses, but that's because it's happened often enough that it lost the humor. OP and her boyfriend might not have gotten to that point yet; changing a status is just harmless fun, as long as you don't say anything too embarrassing. Not that it's okay to read his messages while you're there. That's none of your business, OP. What you found sucks, but you shouldn't have read it. That right there shows that you either are too nosy for your own good, or you don't trust your boyfriend. If you're nosy, you need to grow up and learn to control your curiosity before you're really ready for a relationship; if you don't trust him, well, then you can't have a healthy relationship.

I agree that she shouldn't have read it, and that being on someone else's account doesn't give you the right to read their messages, BUT I think she had a right to be nosy/suspicious if she in fact was snooping. After all, if she previously suspected him of cheating, apparently she was right. FYL OP.

Then, he's a ******* Idiot for not logging out. Whatever... She found out, now time for operation pay back!

**** up ****. NOBODY deserves to be cheated on. If you've ever had a girlfriend, you'd know how it feels you ******* ****

Apparently she had good reason for snooping - he is clearly untrustworthy. I've been with my bf for 5 years and have never gone into his e-mail, facebook, phone, etc. Because I trust him. But if you're cheating, you clearly can't be trusted. If she didn't snoop and she found out later after she'd gotten an STD and he'd cheated on her with someone, you'd say YDI for not knowing he was cheating or something else equally stupid. I don't advocate snooping at all. But in this case, he broke the trust before she did by setting up a bootie call.

Some of you morons who say that HER SNOOPING IS JUSTIFIED because he was cheating need to look at it from the point of view that snooping is 100% wrong no matter what you find. Snooping is NEVER okay. Would you dumbasses still be defending her if she hadnt found him doing anything wrong? Doubt it! And those that would still defend her are probably sneaky little snoops too. I agree to an extent that if he is cheating and you SUSPECT that you can kind of look around for more info and clue, BUT NOT SNOOP to protect yourself from the chance of getting an STD, but in her case she went on to mess with his FB status, and THEN SNOOPED, when she snooped she found something (and maybe that was a good thing) but she hadn't suspected him of doing anything wrong in the first place! So she was just being a sneaky no good little snoop for no reason other than to be nosy!

why are you so paranoid about "sneaky little snoops?" you must have a lot that you don't want anyone to find out...you probably have some creepy or disgusting habit that you would justify with "well it doesn't matter that you know cause you're a SNOOP!" if anyone found out. are you in NAMBLA? I've never "snooped" on my boyfriend because I love and trust him, but I'm not some paranoid maniac who goes on mad tangents about how evil "snoopers" are.

Whether she was justified in snooping or not isn't the issue here - I was pointing out that she doesn't deserve to be CHEATED ON because she snooped, as all the "YDI for snooping" posts imply. If you snoop you deserve: for your significant other not to trust you, to possibly break up with you, and to have to work really hard to gain that trust back if they don't. What you don't deserve is to be cheated on. That's like saying that if you cheat on a test you deserve to have someone else bang your girlfriend. There's no connection between the action and the consequence. And yes, I've already anticipated "yes there's a connection, he's cheating on her BECAUSE she's a sneaky bitch!" Still no excuse - you have a problem with someone, you tell them. You don't go bang someone else.

I don't see anything about anyone cheating. And shit the way some people are going about this makes them look like they think their opinion is fact. No one knows the whole damn story. Shhiiiiiiiitttttt people.