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By jessybear777 - 15/02/2015 03:41 - United States - Branson

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Today, my boyfriend and I had sex for the first time. I'm extremely uncomfortable with eye contact, but he kept staring into my eyes the entire time. I had to sing the F.U.N. song from Spongebob in my head to stop myself having an anxiety attack. FML
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GOtllt 17

Try telling him that you don't like it, and he'll probably stop.,Maybe he thinks you enjoy it?

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feven 32

Today, I had sex with my girlfriend for the first time. She kept flinching every time she looked at me and spent the entire time humming to herself like she was in pain. FML

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Eggs6131 14

F is for friends who do stuff together... ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)

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domolovesyoshi 33

Maybe talk to your partner about not looking into your eyes when you have sex

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swanheart 35

Until he learns to respect you, make that the only time you have sex

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swanheart 35

If he was staring into her eyes surely he must have noticed she was panicking?

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swanheart 35

And she should probably hold off having sex with him until she's had this talk with him to ensure that the same unpleasant experience doesn't happen again, right?

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swanheart 35

Also, and I am speaking as someone who is also excruciatingly uncomfortable with eye contact, I don't think a lot of people realise just how much eye contact people use on a day to day basis. Nearly every conversation with another person they try and make eye contact, if the op has known her boyfriend for any length of time surely he must have noticed her aversion to eye contact? :-/

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WipeHour 11

Yeah, you should have a sit down with him and talk about that.

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natalia95 9

I hate to be the one to say it, but you definitely weren't ready. How old are you? If you're still watching Spongebob, then you're way too young.

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Retaheki 27

Wow, so does that mean that if I watch Law and Order, I'm old enough? People watch whatever they want, kids can watch Law and Order, adults can watch Spongebob, just like the ones that watch My Little Pony, or the kids that watch CSI.

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stephanyovalle 15

I think OP wasn't ready too. Not because sponge bob, but... I feel like the pressure of Valentine's Day, made everything so uncomfortable. If you don't like something going on, STOP and talk about it. Besides, eye contact is a very primitive form to establish a connection, we do it to make the other person feel safe.

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Gamemaster999 5

I know people that are over 20 still watching spongebob. I'm the same way I hate eye contact I don't know why I just never have liked it. My first time I had it doggy style so maybe that's got something to do with it but don't judge someone by how they cope with their anxiety.

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natalia95 9

Well that's what I meant. I'm not judging someone's anxiety, I have it myself. But having sex brought her an anxiety attack and she couldnt tell him she was uncomfortable

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toaster87 19

@76.. No I'm pretty sure she stated right in the FML that she is uncomfortable with the eye contact and that's what caused the anxiety attack, not the act of having sex. And since when did what show you watch decide whether you were too young or too old to have sex? I'm 27 and if I could I would gladly spend a day watching the cartoon Recess, or many cartoons from when I was younger.

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kbug95 12

Communication when having sex for the first time seems super awkward. But if you're not enjoying it for some reason, especially something like that, you gotta talk about it. I'm sure if you had told him it was making you uncomfortable he'd have understood. Good luck next time!

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bethanyhopkins 49

Well, prolonged eye contact during sex is pretty awkward...

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chikinscratch00 8

maybe he was trying to create intimacy. But yeah being stared down is kinda awkward

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cappellaaa 23

This made me laugh more than it should have haha. But maybe you should just tell him that it bothers you, so you won't have to go through that every time.

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