No

OP broke up with him. They were the bigger person.

That doesn't mean anything. Some people are just crazy. Just because OP broke up doesn't mean they're the better person. For all we know OP could have cheated, then broke up with her bf when he cheated. She then posted an FML while omitting such details for the validation/sympathy of the FML community. Anyways, I meant it more as a joke. But to suggest that it simply isn't possible soley based on the rather vague word of the FML poster is silly.

Kinda how like all of the politicians who get caught on gay dating sites happen to be staunch anti-gay crusaders

I want to know how the hell people come to that level of thinking. "Oh my SO must be cheating on me so I'll cheat on them." Either way it's wrong and doing it to get back at someone makes you no better than them.

It's that "I think you'll try to play me, so I'll play you first" mentality.

I don't think you understand that he actually did cheat. He was so worried about her cheating, that he cheated.

Ok but this guy did actually cheat, so I don't really see your point. Your situation was different, you were worried about her cheating because she had actually cheated on you before. The OP never cheated and he was still paranoid, and as it turns out, he's also a total jackass, "I'm worried you're going to cheat, so I'm going to cheat on you," seriously ****** up logic. And look, this might sound mean, but relationships are built on trust, your ex was a bitch, but even after she cheated on you, multiple times no less, you still went back, you took that risk, that was your decision, no one forced you. If your SO cheats and you still stay, it might be hard, but you still have build up trust and learn how to trust them again, because you decided to stay and work on the relationship, and it will never improve if you're constantly paranoid and making accusations.

Nine times?! I'm sorry, but going back again after the second time is just being stupid. I really hope you never caught anything because your ex couldn't keep her damn legs closed. I know I probably sound like a bitch, but cheating pisses me off to no end, and it drives me nuts to know that some people allow it to happen to them over and over. You may love the person you're with, but they obviously don't love you if they keep doing it. Fool me once... Speaking as someone who went back to an ex after he cheated on me (only once that I knew of, but it turned out to be multiple times), I can honestly say that it doesn't get any better. Cheating may be forgivable the first time, depending on the circumstances. We're all human and we make mistakes sometimes, but anything more than that one time is not a mistake anymore. People will treat you the way you allow them to. Love yourself enough to know when you deserve better, and don't settle for less just because you'd rather not be alone.

You need some self-esteem, mate.