Weddings and Holidays: Today, I found out that my fiancé's parents are refusing to pay...

By tayluh26 - 15/02/2010 05:03 - United States

Today, I found out that my fiancé's parents are refusing to pay for a honeymoon, because they "didn't have one, so neither will we", meaning they won't pay for a single thing for our wedding. FML

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By Anonymous - 09/09/2022 17:00 - Canada - Ottawa

Today, as I'm traditional, this that means I learned the bride's parents pay for wedding, the groom's parents pay for the honeymoon. My in-laws didn't pay for a honeymoon. Fine - they disappointed me, I'll disappoint them with no grandchildren. No honeymoon, no grandchildren. FML

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By no luck - 30/09/2010 17:14 - United States

Today, I found out less than 3 weeks before my wedding my fiancé will lose his new, great paying job unless we cancel our nonrefundable honeymoon. FML

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By Anonymous - 30/10/2012 19:34 - United States

Today, I found my fiancé is cheating on me. Our wedding is in 26 days and everything is already paid for. FML

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By sarsuela - 08/07/2021 04:01

Today, we gave my in-laws-to-be our wedding invitations. Their first reaction was to assume we needed money and told us they couldn't help pay for the wedding. Their second move was to book hair and make-up for themselves. Congratulations? FML

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By almost broke - 21/02/2016 13:24 - Czech Republic - Brno

Today, because my fiancé is criminally incompetent at budgeting, I'm now having to pay the first installment for my own wedding ring. FML

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By Sarah-Louise James - 29/04/2019 12:00

Today, I was told by one of my bridesmaids that she can't afford the travel costs to get to my wedding, after telling me that she didn't need me to organize alternate free travel for her. I'm getting married in less than two weeks. FML

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By IDon't - 13/10/2013 10:49 - Australia - Berkeley Vale

Today, my fiancée told me she can't marry me. Our wedding day is tomorrow and around 20 of our 180 guests attending have travelled half way around the world just for the occasion. FML

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By need_cash_now - 28/04/2013 04:29 - United States

Today, six weeks before my wedding, my mother decided to claim that she never agreed on paying for it and that she doesn't think she will. Now I have six weeks to scavenge enough cash for the wedding she planned in the first place. FML

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By Anonymous - 01/11/2017 04:00

Today, three days before their rent was due, my fiancé's friends moved out of our basement without saying a word to us. On their way out, they took an envelope from my locked desk with $800 in it that was for our wedding in six months. FML

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By oregongrl1991 - 29/01/2010 03:32 - France

Today, my fiancé told me he didn't have the money to make payments on my engagement ring and that I either have to return it, or make the payments myself. Now we aren't engaged any more, and are "dating." FML

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Snow_Daisy 7

Monday 15 February 2010 12:17

Why don't you save and pay for it yourselves? That IS an option, you kno.

TrekkieGirl 0

Monday 15 February 2010 14:30

Agreed with the previous postings. Honestly, if you're old enough to be getting married, then you should be able to afford to pay for the wedding and the honeymoon. If you can't afford it, then you need to figure something out. It's not the parents responsibility, it's yours. YDI for not planning ahead.

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Flounder 2

Monday 15 February 2010 16:30

I understand parents paying for their child's college education because there's no way to finance it straight out of high school or on a minimum wage salary, and loans aren't always easy or sensible to get, but if you are getting married that is a true declaration of adulthood (in theory, anyway), and also a statement that you are not only able to take care of yourself but to pool resources to help someone else. If you are unable to pay for your own wedding either you are not adult enough to intelligently budget or you shouldn't be getting married. I have no idea why grown adults expect their parents to pay for weddings, let alone honeymoons - that is just absurd to me. If they do, that's very kind of them, but it shouldn't be EXPECTED.

lostfaithinpppl 19

Monday 15 February 2010 16:53

I agree! OP, you have major entitlement issues.

nica73 0

Monday 15 February 2010 16:43

Pay for the wedding and honeymoon YOU can afford. You are OWED nothing. It's unfortunate your future IL's have the attitude they have, but, at the end of the day, the "obligation" to pay for your wedding and honeymoon rests solely on you. Suck it up.

poeticpunk77 0

Monday 15 February 2010 17:04

While I don't think anyone's parents should be OBLIGATED to contribute any money toward a wedding (and the OP should not have automatically expected that they would contribute any money), I do think it stinks that they didn't offer to pay for anything at all simply because they didn't have a honeymoon. But what can you do? It IS technically your wedding.

some_girl9 8

Monday 15 February 2010 17:06

People on here are such idiots! It is tradition for the bride and groom's parents to pay for the wedding. Even if they don't pay for all of it, they should still contribute SOMETHING. This is a FYL, for sure. OP, I'm sorry that your fiance's parents are so miserable in their own marriage that they want yours to be miserable too. **** them!

noype 0

Monday 15 February 2010 23:58

I agree. It was also "traditional" for the bride to have no say over who they married. The groom simply made a deal with her parents, or even the bride and grooms parents made deals. It's funny how people want to pick the "traditions" that benefit them.

FerrariCake 2

Monday 15 February 2010 17:10

"Other people won't buy me things, so my life is ******!" Seriously, OP? Real men don't expect other people to buy them things. Real men earn their own keep. I feel sorry for the woman you're marrying.

monnanon 13

Monday 15 February 2010 20:57

that REAL man is a woman, if op was a man it would have been spelt fiancée

noype 0

Monday 15 February 2010 23:59

You realize that most people have no idea that there's a difference in how the words should be spelt right? That's not a very good way of determining the gender of the poster.

skyeyez9 24

Monday 15 February 2010 17:18

My patents didn't pay either. Just save up your own money and go.

purplemnm 9

Monday 15 February 2010 17:37

pathetic jealous assholes...gawd...I'd falcon kick their asses

Sparkiee93 3

Monday 15 February 2010 17:43

Oh, poor baby, you don't get to go to Hawaii for free?

Hexefrau 5

Monday 15 February 2010 17:59

I got married on Halloween. I paid for the entire wedding myself; it cost around $3K. I did my own catering, paid for the groomsmen's suits, the bridesmaids' Victorian skirts, the decor, the linens, everything. I worked extra hours and saved for months to be able to do this, because I simply didn't expect anyone to pay for (let alone understand) my dream Halloween wedding. Realistically, we couldn't afford a honeymoon at this time, so we dealt with that by taking a week off of work (each of us) and holing up together in our love nest and playing copious amounts of Tekken and StreetFighter while enjoying sushi and pho. That was almost better than going on some silly trip, IMHO.