I agree with you, but I think that there's an underlying challenge/problem that men face when talking to women (compounded by the fact that most women don't realize it themselves). It is this--women have to gauge and place the men in their lives in at least one of two categories: Threat or Non-Threat. They have to decide, and usually do it quickly, if the man standing next to them could or would in someway harm them. It's a subconscious thing and as much as we like to pretend that sexism no longer exists, the violence towards women that has been going on since the dawn of time, is still ocurring all the time today. Therefore, unfortunately, when a man ( or in this case, an adolescent male) presents himself as anything but "normal", he is already throwing himself into the potential Threat category.

My main problem in high school is that I would get fixated on one girl at a time and wouldn't consider dating anyone else. I was way too serious back then.

Doc, I am inclined to agree with you. I'm dating a nerd, who does happen to be a little eccentric and a little bit older. What I've found is that he's less of a jerk, and more of a man despite his sensitivity. Oh, and the fact that he wasn't aware that his penis was freaking huge was kind of nice too... I get a lot more effort in bed with a lot less ego. I can't say all nerds have huge penises, but I DO think they give a hell of a lot more to their women in order to make up for some of the awkward social skills.

Don't people decide on how to treat you by how they see you? I.E. If they see you're a jerk they treat you badly?