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Teenagers are scary
No they aren't, idiots are,
you just proved his point lmao
teen are scary, my sister had three kids in her teen and she's a idiot too.
Teenagers are scary.. I'm a teenager, and they still scare me
#40 How did I prove his point, do I scare you?
#76 Runs in the family?
Those "abstinence-only" courses are working out great, ain't they?
Do you realize that abstinence can (and should) be taught at the same time as learning HOW sex works? All abstinace is saying is, "Here's how it works. Now, don't go make rash and stupid decisions!" It is a very good idea to wait for sex to avoid heartbeat, betrayal, etc. There doesn't have to be a religious reason to think things through logically.
I don't know, 78. I would like to keep my heartbeat.
No, "Abstinence-only" is more like "Just say NO! Condoms don't work. You'll get AIDS and you'll die in hellfire and brimstone! REPENT!!" "Abstinence-plus" however, is more like what 78 described. "This is how you do it. This is what that is called. These are called contraceptives. Now, don't do anything you might regret."
#78- And I agree. Teens should be taught to keep their pants on, just so long as we remember that most of them probably won't, and it's a good idea to teach them about contraceptives as well. When I said "abstinence-only" I was referring to those BS courses that are actually taught in some parts of the US where they tell you that sex will kill you and condoms will give you cancer. Those are the kind of "courses" that lead to some of the highest teen pregnancy rates, not the kind that you're talking about.
You should really talk to her. You don't want to be a grandparent yet.
I doubt she is going to be a grandmother soon by the way her daughter is thinking now..
well. if she thinks you have to be peed on to get pregnant, that probably means she doesn't know about sperm and how that works.
Maybe she knew you were listening or she was quoting something, but if she really thinks that, she should have gotten herself educated before entering into a serious relationship, or maybe you should try to intervene even though it is usually difficult to bring up this kind of subject without either party wanting to leave or not listening, I hope it all turns out well for you OP but just remember everyones their own person and sometimes need to learn from their mistakes, this may not be one of those times, but its definitely something to constantly have in mind with children
The problem with teenagers is that they are rarely completely rational and tend to get their information from sources that are not trustworthy (friends, the internet, hearsay). Since they're also full of hormones and are in the process of discovering their sexuality, they ARE going to have sex. That's why it's the PARENT who's supposed to educate them (or the school system, which doesn't seem awfully popular in some of the more religious parts of the world) so they don't mess up. OP's daughter is behaving like a typical teenager, OP's the one who messed up by neglecting to tell their child how pregnancy works and how to prevent it.
I wonder how many of you as teenagers, actually listened to your parents when they tried to teach you something??? Teenagers will do it their way and they'll learn the hard way. It's not always up to the parent as they can only do so much and give enough info to guide their kids. Give a man a fish and he'll have a meal for a day. Teach a man to fish and he'll have food for the rest of his days.
That's why parents should be teaching their children how reproduction, and the body, works while the kids are in elementary school. If you wait until they're teenagers, you're competing against years of misinformation and hormones. Start teaching your children early and reinforce to them that they can always come to you with questions or for advice. Because of budget cuts, many states/districts are cutting the scant health/sex ed classes they once had (California has), so it is a terrible idea to wait until your child is a teenager to have "the talk".
#43 I listened to my mother. When I was 11 and about to start the monthly cycle, my mom taught me why my body was doing what it was doing. This included how both my female reproductive organs work as well as the male reproductive organs. I didn't know everything, obviously. As I got older, I also my mom about how pregnancy works in detail. My mom did not negelct to teach me the importance of true love and when it would be okay to have sex. She did teach me abstinence, but not exactly for religious reasons. Its a good practice to "save yourself" for that one person, because otherwise there is a lot of heartbreak and betrayal. OP did not use good discernment in not talking to her daughter about how sex and pregnancy works in detail. That is one of the biggest jobs of a parent. A 16 year old right now has no clue how her body works, and that's the fault of the parents.
I think it helps to have a mother who is up front about these things. I listened to my mother in my teen years because she was open with me when I was younger. By contrast, my best friend didn't know what a period was for years. In fact, in our early teens I got in trouble with her mother for mentioning to her that my period sometimes made me feel sick, causing her to ask what a period was. Guess which one of us is still close to her mother and which is not?
I'm going to assume she's never had to take a health class.
Honestly, teenagers today know how it works before they hit high school. Middle school health classes teach introductory see Ed. She had to have been playing a joke on you, OP.
I think you would be surprised. There are some major idiots out there. But my health class (which was required) did get into a more Sex Ed topic for almost 3 weeks when I was in the 6th grade. So by the time I was 11, I knew that ejaculation and pissing were 2 very different things. I even remember the teacher going "No, boys, you don't pee in a girl.", "A penis doesn't go into a girl when it's limp." Was said a time or two as well. My health teacher certainly was not shy to talk about things. Oh, and there was a "Question Box", so if you were shy to ask about something, he would cover it in class, but would not tell who asked the question, etc. I have no idea how guys have no knowledge of the menstrual cycle or anything like that either, was pretty educated on that in that class as well.
#19, I have had a junior in HS that would not take the pill because she was absolutely CONVINCED it was horse tranquilizers. No, they do not get good information. We have people that are ADULTS right now convinced they are going to catch Ebola and that it's going to spread through the US in some unstoppable scourge. A teen having bad information is a no-brainer, pun intended. They get bad info, they don't have good info to counteract that because they are "sheltered" from it or it's lost in the sea of stuff out there, and you get a high pregnancy rate. That's pretty much how the US south goes right now.
There are a bunch of states that do not require sex ed to be factual. Somehow these are the states with the highest teen pregnancy rates, go figure.
I think it's the parents job to teach sex ed, not the schools. yes, have it in school, but the parents definitely need to really get into details more at home.
I think the problem is that some parents are too uncomfortable to have an in depth, taboo free sex talk with their kids. The basics are taught in school, but I agree, parents need to be more open to discussion about major personal issues that their kids are going to be experiencing. The more knowledge you possess leads to better, more informed choices being made.
There is no sex education in most schools in the US anymore. It's all about "Abstinence Only" and the only thing they teach is that you should wait until you are married. The problem is that most of the schools teaching "abstinence only" are in the really religious areas, where the parents are 3 times more likely to avoid those conversations. That's why teen pregnancy and STD transmission are about 5 times higher in the "Red States."
Ah young love. May it ever be so sweet...
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I think you need to have the birds and the bees talk before she does end up pregnant
The birds and the pees. Wait...