I agreed with you right up to the point where you said your father is the reason you're a narcissistic asshole. You are the reason, you made that choice. His behaviour may make that response logical & understandable but it is still a choice. Own your behaviour & emotions.

Those people should be bannished from your household . No Christmas , Thanksgiving or any other visit and no further contact with your children. I don't care what made them say that, there is simply no excuse for saying something like that, and in YOUR house, too!. Talk to your husband , OP. This is completely unacceptable! Congratulations on the baby!

ThTs why im happy my mom in law is dead

I'm so sorry that should not be able to happen

That is an awful thing for them to say. You should confront them and take your daughter and tell them to stick it.

Hard to call since I don't know you, but I do know its hard to hear.

Idk, maybe its because I am an orohan, but throw them the hell out of your house.

Maybe give them a chance to hear you tell your baby that she no longer has an aunt or grandmother over the baby monitor. Turn those tables

This is pretty crazy. As such, I must assume that you must've done something to warrent such hatred. What kind of dad/mother are you?

Have to agree with a lot other posts, talk to you husband, don't allow them near you or your daughter. Who knows what they will say to her when she is older