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By henley - 23/07/2012 01:33

Today, I told my boyfriend that I didn't want to go out with him because I was having a fat day. After ten minutes of fighting, he threw a ring box on the floor and stormed out. I basically refused his proposal because of my body issues. FML
I agree, your life sucks 11 771
You deserved it 69 888

Same thing different taste

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1221jamw 11

Well I don't understand why he couldnt of done it another day, but then again I've never planned to propose.. But I also hate how girls will look pretty and find something small thats wrong with them and complain about it..

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OFF1C3RSLAT3R 4

I can't believe he'd even consider marrying someone so self-conscious. Quit being a sissy.

I can't believe the number of YDIs. Women are constantly told that their worth is based on their appearance. 97% of women have body image issues. Saying "stop being stupid", "stop having low self-esteem", is akin to telling someone to just "stop being depressed". It just doesn't work like that. Self-esteem is complex and deeply rooted, and poor self-image can be really destructive. I don't think she deserves it - I feel bad for both of them.

It would be more accurate to say that she should learn to deal with her issues in ways that do not hurt those around her. I hope she realizes how destructive her "fat day" problem is, and gets some help. If she is old enough to receive a proposal, she should be old enough to take responsibility for her actions.

"old enough to receive a proposal"? What type of shit is that? You don't control what other people give you (in this case the option of marriage). She wasn't expecting a proposal. It's alright to refuse a date sometimes even from your bf/fiancé/spouse. It's just today that she's having a fat day.

But in most serious proposals, the parties involved are at least 18, therefore what 111 said is still valid

Ammi 7

If just having a "fat day" is enough to keep you from leaving the house, maybe it's time you seek therapy. That goes beyond normal self-esteem issues. There are a number of low-cost services in almost all major cities if this seems like it would be too expensive for you. Hope things get better, and that you can your boyfriend can talk it out!

This. Hopefully this situation, no matter how terrible it seems now, can be a starting point for you two to resolve any major communication issues before you take the humongous step that is marriage.

You need to stop being so insecure, OP. It seems like your boyfriend loves you no matter what. Now you need to fix this.

skyeyez9 24

OP, please comment back on here and give us an update!!! Did he later propose? Did you guys make up?

adansgirl913 2

That's horrible. Who doesn't go out bc they feel fat? Your prolly not even fat prolly one of those skinny girls that don't weigh a thing but thinks they're huge. And it shouldnt matter anyway bc you obviously been with him for a while if he was proposing, you shouldn't have issues like that. Poor boy.

whoaa123 0

Wow maybe you really are fat lmfao

iveanne 0

Who the hell stays home because they are having a fat day?! Seriously, what does that even mean?!! To actually put your life on hold because you are feeling overweight? I feel sorry for you because clearly you value appearance over everything else. I could understand if you were feeling down for some other reason but that? News flash, most people don't give a shit what you look like and you disappointed the one who does give a shit!

He is with her and he knows she has fat days and that this happens. He should have just put it off another day or two till she wasn't feeling fat. Just like people have lazy days and off days and busy days, she has a fat day.

Except the vast majority of people with low self esteem have it despite a lifetime of being told their beautiful and with constant reassurance from everyone else. This isn't some status where one can claim to be a victim and, low self esteem or not, there's a line where it turns into embarrassing yourself through wallowing in your own self pity and fishing for compliments. I have absolutely no time for people like OP. How dare you cancel someone else's plans, even if you thought it was simply a normal dinner date, because you're having a fat day. What a stupid, self-absorbed little girl.

WithinEPICA 4

he loved you and you turned him down? YDI

She didn't have a chance to turn him down since he threw a box at her and walked away. She just didn't want to go out. He could have made a nice dinner or lunch or ordered something in and proposed that way. People don't have to go out to get a marriage proposal.