I'm not sure either, but when I'm on my period sometimes I feel bloated and nasty, so that could be part of why she didn't want to go out in public.

She can't handle something as small as having a "fat day" without denying contact with her own boyfriend.

I'm sorry? HE wasn't worth it? If she is so self-centred as to feel entitled enough to cancel his plans and to cancel going out on (what she believes) is a normal date with a person that loves her and sees her naked everyday because she's a little bloated, in utter disregard of any money he has already spent without any thought to his organisation, anticipation, kindness and needs then, frankly, he can do much better. People that feel the worst about themselves often don't realise how selfishly they act in their self-pity.

So are you saying women should be treated like children who should be humored when they throw a fit, or should they be treated like lunatics? BTW, it doesn't say OP is a woman, 'Henley' could also be a gay guy. OK, a very, very gay guy in that case.

I think you are really reading more into it than the OP wrote. No one knows what they said, or even if things happened the way OP says they did. My feeling is that if OP has body image (or other) issues that can lead to such problems in a relationship, she should work through those issues BEFORE being in a serious relationship. I wish I had had such advice before getting married.

You clearly have never had the anxiety, stress and anticipation of planning a proposal. I hope your partner enjoys treating you like a child since this is, it seems, what you feel constitutes a loving relationship.

I don't see how the "anxiety, stress and fear of organising a proposal" makes it justifiable to force your girlfriend out when she's made it very clear she doesn't want to go. If I told my boyfriend I didn't want to go out because I felt self conscious and he threw a fit and stormed out like the boyfriend in the OP, I'd be calling him later to dump his ass for not caring about my feelings, not agreeing to spend the rest of my life with him. If nothing else, not being a dickwad and paying attention to her feelings makes her more likely to accept the proposal in the first place. At the very least, anyone with common sense would realised that a proposal is meant to be a happy moment, and it won't be one if your girlfriend is sitting there the whole time a) feeling very upset and self-conscious about her appearance, b) upset that you felt her insecurities mattered less than your desire to go out to dinner and c) you've just had a pretty big row over it.

And you want to talk about treating someone like a child? Forcing someone to follow the plans you've made without considering their opinions or feelings on the issue is something you do to a child. Understanding that sometimes people have (seemingly) irrational confidence wobbles and being sympathetic and caring towards them isn't treating them like a child, it's treating them like a loving partner should. Basically, if you love someone enough to marry them then: staying at home and missing out on a dinner reservation > forcing them to go out when they don't want to just so you can make a flashy proposal. I'd rather my boyfriend proposed to me over pizza and a bad romcom on the TV than proposed at the fricking Dorchester over dinner when I was feeling unattractive and self conscious.

I agree with you 163.

I feel like none of them are mature enough to get married...

162, Wait wait, you are against someone being angry that their plans that they'd worked hard on, which meant a great deal to them and would effectively change their entire life from that point on because it's selfish and childish...but you think it's not selfish or childish to break up with them for expressing said anger? Excuse me while I find a dictionary to beat your stupid ass with. I can't believe you can sit there preaching his need to be understanding and then go and talk about something so blatantly selfish and childish.

You're getting this upset over an FML? Please rethink your priorities in life.