But you'll stay anyway. Next she'll start talking about moving in together if you pretend to be cool with it. Then when your relationship fails you'll probably be paying for the other guy she screwed's kid. For the love of god get out while you still can.

She probably did such a good job of hiding the kid because her husband was babysitting.

well **** yea it changes alot

The parent should obviously first talk about the child before investing too much time in the relationship. Just showing up with a kid gives the other person no chance to adjust to the idea of potentially suddenly becoming a parent.

If she lied about it dump her.

for all u people who keep calling the guy stupid who madethe comment about "ihop" being an apple product...u are completely missing his point. he's saying that iPhones (which are apple products) are built to recognize the "i" and a word as an apple product since many of apples products do start with an "i". geez...

damn g I had the same shyt done to me n it did ... it just didn't work out

1. It doesn't matter if it says ihop or IHOP. Let it go. We know what it means regardless. 2. As much as I can understand her trying to hide it, the child is a definite need to know ASAP thing. I know, from watching my mom's dating when I was growing up, that guys don't date women to hang out with their children. Usually I was hated on, ignored, and left behind. So I understand from that perspective. She was probably scared. But at the same time, it's a very important topic. It's hard not to mention your three year old sitting at home waiting for you. At some point, it has to be mentioned because if the relationship were to progress, it was going to come out. If he found out on his own, without her telling him, it would've been way worse. I'd say that it is definitely something to discuss thoroughly with her to decide if the six month relationship is worth it. If you had a good connection and you really liked each other, than the child shouldn't be an issue. You'd just have to have a meet and greet and hang out with the kid to get to know them and get them used to you. But if the responsibility of being "mom's boyfriend" or the potential "step dad" is too much, than you should definitely explain that to her in a polite manner. I'm sorry that you had to find out that way, good luck to you!

how dumb can some of you guys get, the issue is not that she has a child but that she LIED to him for 6 months?? An also, there is a big difference between dating for 6 months BEFORE you meet the child as a friend of mums/dads and NOT KNOWING about the child for 6 months. and another point, single parents can date and not have their children involved, but should still mention they have them, if they have shared care, they have a bit of free time they can use as they see fit without affecting their child, but if it develops into a relationship that child then becomes a factor it's a package deal and all parties feelings/needs need to be considered.

no shit, Sherlock that's what i'd say :9