OP's girlfriend could have just taken the phone without OP's permission.

Shouldn't be a password on it?

Psychos know how to do such thing...

My phone allows me to turn off the alarm without unlocking it. If you haven't checked in a while, you might wish to recheck. Perhaps the software has updated to allow this.

My boyfriend and I borrow each other phones all of the time. He likes to read the books on my kindle app and I like playing his games. To be fair, neither of us snoops.

I have a password because a psycho ex started to shit text my friends. I just kept it locked when I got a new boyfriend, he figured out my password and decided to do the same exact thing. Sneak around, take my friends numbers, and if I didn't text him, he'd text my friends asking where I was. Then he used to get defensive when I touched his phone lol. Passwords aren't always gonna save the day. :c

Then if she weren't spiteful, she would have left him instead of screwing with his phone. Seriously, who does that? What if OP had important business clients in his phone that happened to be female?

just because someone cheats doesn't mean you just walk away. If you truly love a person you work on it. no-one gets over something like that over night. that's not called spite. that's called losing ones trust in a person. is what she did right? no. but it doesn't mean she may not have had a reasoning behind it. and all of you always jump the gun on leaving someone when they cheat. you must've never had a real relationship before. or really loved them. that's not how it works in the real world. hopefully a lot more of you could figure that out and maybe then the divorce rates wouldn't be so high, there wouldn't be so many single parents, etc. when things get hard y'all wanna leave instead of work through it and be a grown up.

#109: Secretly deleting someone's contacts isn't a good way to start rebuilding a relationship.

You are aware that OP is using a metaphor and doesn't mean his girlfriend actually suffers from psychosis, right? The type of person you just described is what OP is referring to. Also, why are you stating that like it's acceptable behavior?

Maybe #61 consideres this as normal behaviour. Maybe she is very young and it's her first bf and she doesn't know any better.

61, your comment really worries me. You realize it's not ok for your boyfriend to act like that right? It's controlling. He doesn't need to know or trust the people you talk to, he just needs to know and trust you. That's how it works in a healthy relationship.

Yeah this is why controlling, obsessive behaviour should be taught in Health classes in high school. To outline ALL the signs of abuse. Because irrational jealousy has been mainstreamed now; the normalization of it has to be stopped.

78, I never thought of that before, but it would be great if they could teach what an abusive relationship is like and what the warning signs are in school! A lot of people in high school are having their first serious relationship with a lot of emotions and passion (usually always thinking this is the one they are going to marry) and end up allowing unhealthy things such as extreme jealousy, being controlled/controlling, cutting off relationships with friends and only spending time together...it would be great if they also taught about what a healthy, well rounded relationship looks like too. Smart idea 78!

Thanks, 154! I remember it being briefly mentioned in my health class in high school, one year. But I wish that there had been a stupid presentation/research project on types of abuse that can go on in relationships (since when tested, the info goes in one ear, on the page, and out the other). I mean, they made us do it on assigned STI's and drugs. When doing online research on Types of abuse, it is very easy to come across informative lists; so they'd have a high chance of learning most signs in their own research, no matter what type they were assigned. In an ideal high school curriculum, students would be taught 1) sex ed (informative, and not abstinence-only like mine was) 2) the ole don't do drugs and drink blah blah 3) mental health/disorders 4) various abuses in relationships 5) gender and sexuality studies 6) physical health and fitness (NOT making people get weighed in front of others as a means of teaching the BMI, which is currently in place) Could probably be covered over all of 4 years, I think. Apologies for the lengthy post.

Ya... thank you #71 for standing up for me... I'm 17.. if you count that as very young but it's not my 1st boyfriend.... I think he's... 11?

The only person your partner needs to trust is you. Your boyfriend's behavior sounds controlling not "watching out for you". Who you talk to on your time is none of his business.

The 11th?!?! Honey at your age to have that many already is NOT a good sign. Look at the pattern of the kind of guy you date and change it. Continuing on this pattern will only lead to bad relationships later.