By Anonymous - 13/12/2013 21:41 - United States - Philadelphia

Today, my boyfriend randomly decided to let me know that he believes there's really no such thing as cheating, unless both partners explicitly agree that the relationship is monogamous. And no, he wouldn't agree that ours is. FML
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jessBeAqueen 13

at least he's being honest that he doesn't want to be in a monogamous relationship. if your not ok with being in an open relationship then time to move on.

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ShadowRider89 2

Well, somebody is trying to excuse their cheating...

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angelitared 27

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DocBastard 38

He may be right, but it only takes one person to agree that the other is a fuckwad and deserves to have a Louisville Slugger shoved up his ass. Maybe I'm overreacting.

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littlekellilee 45

That could be what he's into. We do know he's an asshole... Definitely don't want to give him the wrong impression.

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Bumblebrea99 14

I hope they stay together he sounds like a really great partner! /sarcasm

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13ky13 20

FML tip #42: Anytime you're going to type the word "sarcasm," you're probably better off not to.

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narrenburg 1

Okay. I understand that OP's views on the inherent monogamy of relationships are incompatible with his. Breaking the relationship (as it isu) up is a good course of action. Be that as it may... That does not give you the right to denigrate OP's boyfriend for the views he has. The views themselves don't hurt anyone. You don't actually have to cheat before you're open to an open relationship. Polyamorous people exist. Maybe OP's boyfriend is one of them.

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betweenwinds 18

This is true, but this is something he should have mentioned before entering a relationship. Just because he has certain views on what a relationship should be, it doesn't mean that his partner's will necessarily match.

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junkman6 22

#20 you are absolutely right, there is nothing wrong with an open relationship. How this shitsack decided, on his own, to make the relationship open after not mentioning it beforehand is wrong. There is no way to rationalize it, he's a dick who is toying with emotions.

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SuperMew 22

But the views did hurt someone, because whether or not he cheated, it sounds like Op said "I want a monogamous relationship/thought we were exclusive" and he pretty much decided for her where it was going. It sounds like he wasn't willing to talk about it, and the two options is for Op to be unhappy and deal with it or for her to leave him.

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skitzymew 19

56, the views did not hurt OP. The actions did.

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skatoolaki 24

Open relationships are absolutely okay. But this is not that. He was dishonest from the start and that's just not how it's done.

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empbob 20

The first rule of any open or swingers relationship is 100% total honesty, that's obviously not what OP's BF has done...

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crazydave1998 6

hey, if everyone believed in monogamy, then there would be less cheating and divorce..not everyone believes the same

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SmokinGuns 13

There are people that believe in monogamy, yet still cheat because they aren't "satisfied". I believe they're just cowards that are too afraid to break up.

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lalaney 14

You must have meant that the opposite. Otherwise, you're pretty stupid. The vast majority of people who cheat actually believe in monogamy, but they fail at it, arguably because it's unreasonably rigid. If more people believed in NONMONOGAMY, I GUARANTEE you that less cheating would happen. That has nothing to do with the original post, though. That guy is clearly a dick justifying already cheating, not a poly person seeking honesty and understanding in a relationship.

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junkman6 22

To all of those saying OPs boyfriend isn't an ass you are wrong. This is stuff that gets said when you first decide to start dating, not after you've been dating for a while as the FML implies. Sure it isn't wrong to be in an open relationship, it is 100% wrong to decide to make your relationship open when your partner doesn't agree. If you want to play the field so badly just be a man and dump your partner, don't screw with their emotions.

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