At least the OP is trying to lose weight together with his wife and be encouraging, instead of just calling her fat or insulting her looks like some of the other FMLs.

Ok, I'm going to add to what I have previously said and give the OP some advice: 1 - Do not bug her for sex. That's just a huge turn off and she doesn't owe it to you. 2 - If she's doing housework, help out. Help out without being asked. Tell her to go relax and you'll finish what she was doing. 3 - Do something nice for her. Massage, day at the spa, flowers, chocolate, something that she would like. Doesn't have to be the traditional stuff. 4 - If you have kids, volunteer to take care of them for a day while she can do whatever she wants. 5 - Go on a date. Yes, you're married, but that doesn't mean you can't still go out. Your dating lead to marriage, so return to the roots. 6 - Lose weight anyway. 7 - Cook her a meal. 8 - Ask her about her day and listen. 9 - Do not think and act that any one of the above will lead to sex. An isolated incident will only breed suspicion and probably not lead to sex. Not to mention it would be painfully obvious, and if you do pester her about sex afterward it would just unravel what good you did. Yes, the above does play into the whole "women clean the house and watch the kids" stereotype, but it's still way too prominent to disregard. If you're stuck with keeping the house clean and watching the kids all day with a husband who doesn't do much help, by the end of the day you just want to sleep. Sex just ends up being another chore. You married each other, so odds are there was a spark at some point. Be proactive about reigniting it and you could very well reignite the passion as well. Whining to the internet won't do anything but quash the passion further. And in the end, the two of you might have changed too much for the relationship to work. The ultimate piece of advice, though: sit down and TALK about it. Calmly. Discuss why she no longer feels like having sex and find out what can be done on your end about it. That will be way more productive and effective that what I said above.

This one makes me wanna go "DOH!". Lol. :D

what a bitch...leave her fat ass and **** all of her friends to teach her a lesson

YDI for being fat in the first place.

They probably wouldn't do him either.

ouchyyyyyyy

Whats the lesson here? Never get married

Fortunately, sub-par sexual performance can be remedied. There is a long list of books on the subject and if you have time to post on FML then you have time to use Google. Just avoid anything that promises fantastic results in just 30 days.

Sex for every pound??? If that happened, you would be losing a LOT of weight together..even if you don't do it right. Which apparently you don't.