Very true. My partner works on contracts, where sometimes he might not have work for 1-4 weeks between contracts. Instead of helping me out during his downtime (I'm doing a PhD and teaching part-time, so I usually do 10-14 hour days), I still end up doing 90% of the housework, as he spends all day playing video games and watching TV series! If I ask him to run 2-3 small errands, he might do one of them, but 'didn't have time' to do the rest. I wouldn't use a chart though, it's pretty childish.

No where does OP say that.

If OP's wife had said OP earns gaming time for spending time with her, I would agree with you. However, he earns it by doing her favors or giving her money. So, doesn't seem like what OP's wife wants is more time with him.

Nyx you could be right, and I could be making a big assumption here.

The only reason I can think of for the wife asking for money is so she can get away from him. Shopping can be quite relaxing for some people, other times it can be use for revenge (husband messes up, wife spends his money).

Honestly it entirely depends on how much gaming OP does. We don't have the information to decide if the gaming is a problem or not. However, it's like 42 said. She wants money or favours in exchange and gets mad if she thinks he's cheating on her imposed time limits so at least to me, she sounds controlling as opposed to trying to kill an addiction.

Doc, I definitely see the point in what you're saying. She could just be bat-shit crazy but I kinda doubt that his wife would just put this system into place completely out of the blue. I'd say it's pretty likely that her husband gets a little carried away with his gaming. That being said, theres definitely a more mature way of handling this issue

I understand loving your wife and being devoted, but why should OP completely get rid of one of his hobbies? It's absolutely possible to balance video games with life, Doc. You dont need to choose one over the other.

i agree with doc. i don't condone trying to control the people you're in a relationship with however if an excessive amount of video games is affecting their relationship in a harmful way, the system may be an attempt to save their connection. as for her conditions, they do appear to be strange - but for all we know she chose money as something because he doesn't have much to spare thus making it harder for him to earn gaming time? anyways, all this is based on assumption since we only have a very small portion of one persons pov.

sounds like a ploy to get shit from him and use his hobby to her advantage.

@ 29 Doc, I agree with you about the devotion. But at the same time, if one side is going to commit that much, then the other has to too. Marriage is, after all, about equality and devotion of both parties... Not just one. All that said; wanting to have money thrown at you doesn't seem like a very time or devotion centered thing... Just a more controlling thing. But enough people have pointed that out already.