aha next time my bf does something like that im gonna say exactly what u just said. BOYS suck. where are all the MENNN?

If you're using any form of birth control, then you're a hypocrite. Sex is for pleasure. That's the fact, Jack. Why else would it feel GOOD? And just like for #47, I feel bad for any guy you date.

I am not using any form of birth control. Guess I am not a hypocrite, then. Sex is for pleasure and is an intimate expression of love for one another. Sucking a man's dick is a power trip on his end. if it meant anything to him other than pleasure, he'd be paying attention to his girlfriend rather than Call of Duty. Oh, and there's no need to feel sorry for my boyfriend, because before I told him how I feel about BJs, he informed me that he'd never want me to do that to him because he would never disrespect me like that. He is COMPLETELY satisfied with me and loves me for who I am and has been for the year we have been together. He has no need to ask me to get on my knees and stick my face in his package in order to be happy with me.

Seriously? They don't HAVE to be about power. Yes, BJs are physically one sided in who gets pleasure, but many women who are willing to give them do so because they LOVE their BFs and WANT to do something pleasurable for them. It's only degrading or disrespectful if you feel forced into it. You don't have to enjoy doing them, but just admit it. Ugh, you're probably in high school. And you're not using any form of birth control? Are you stupid?

Gabrilee- So you don't ever get eaten out then? Cause then its a power trip for YOU. I hope you better not or your the biggest hippocrite there is. Or is that gross? Just wondering what DO you do then in your relationship of a year? Kiss? You obviously don't have sex, or at least I hope not since your not on the pill as you already said. He asked for that as a present, so she knew he wouldn't be giving all of his attention to her, the fml is that she got hit on the head, not that she gave him a bj, that's not even close to an fml. So I'm also assuming you don't do ANYTHING ELSE which is purely for pleasure. Cause you won't do bj's, probably not eating out (again or your the biggest hippocrite in the world), you've cut out EVERY SINGLE THING WHICH IS PURELY FOR PLEASURE? I doubt that hun. And what the hell is with you people saying oh thats so gross, your being subservant. Thats why after you get him to go down on you....then it's not subservant or disrespecting to you. And it's every guy's secret fantasy to be doing his two of his favorite things at once- play video games and get a bj.

Thank you!

Well said :]

Just because a woman isn't on the pill doesn't mean she can't have sex. Since when can't a man use a condom? There ARE other forms of contraception. With all the warnings they have about blood clots and strokes on birth control I don't know why so many women risk their health anyway. It can't be good to pump your body full of hormones that are known to cause breast and cervical cancer later in life, but that's besides the point. What the **** is "subservant"? That isn't even a word. The word you're looking for is subservient, "hun". Hippocrate is not spelled how you think it is spelled. Also- it's you're as in you are. Not your. Never mind, that's probably WAY too much to ask of you seeing as you can't even bother to get your basic vocabulary right. No wonder you’re such an expert on dick sucking. I can’t image you’ve been winning anybody over in the brains/personality department.

No, I am not in high school. To be honest, it seriously disappoints me that refusing a sexual act is now considered childish to some people. I don't take birth control because I don't have sex. I'm not stupid - I'm smart. And by the way, I know blow jobs don't have to be about power. But I have learned that until people are ready to get married, it is often one sided. When a man shows me he can love me for who I am and not what I do to him, that is exactly when things will change. Not because he asks me for it, but because he has shown me respect and love and trust. Suddenly a ******** will be intimate rather than a "present" during call of duty. Allstar - No, I don't get eaten out. I have heard from too many people that they spent their whole relationship "sitting on a guy's face" and that lacks respect too. My boyfriend loves me and respects me and has shown me many times that he does. I know we have a relationship that's built around something other than lust and hormones. Next time you keep a guy around for a year with nothing more than a kiss and a good personality, you let me know.

My ex and i waited a long time before moving on to more sexual things. After a while though we did move on and we eased into things. I always showed her respect and loved her and every time she blew me i made sure to return the favor, not always by eating her out but by fingering and kissing and rubbing her. She'd climax a majority of the time and we were both satisfied. Yes her sucking on me was nothing more then pleasure but i always loved her and respected her for it. she was doing something for me, something special, something she didnt have to do. and even if she didnt i would still respond the same way. i loved her and we dated for nearly 2 years before deciding that we had drifted. Shes now in a happy relationship and im talking to someone that is gradually becoming more. the point of this is that we didnt treat this as a game, we didnt use it as a power trip. we loved each other and showed it. we both were happy and both knew we satisfied the other, thats it.

Wow, GabriLee. It sounds like someone ate a bowl of pretentious flakes this morning for breakfast. Seriously, the attitude that "Oh, I don't have sex, so I'm smarter/better/more pure than you," is incredibly lame and snooty. That stance offended the hell out of me even when I was still a virgin with no intent to change it. Same goes with the reverse. Being sexually active and being a virgin both have advantages and disadvantages. Lighten up on the people that didn't choose your way. ******** aren't demeaning or disgusting if the people involved are consenting and okay with it. Same goes with the reverse(deja vu!). It only becomes one sided if one of the two isn't okay with it or if the receiver refuses to return the favor(assuming the giver wants it, I mean, I didn't for a long while). And saying it's a power trip for the receiver... You don't think it can be a power trip for the giver as well? Like no one gets a certain satisfaction from knowing they're pleasing their partner and driving them crazy? There's pleasure to be had from giving and there's nothing wrong with that. Last thing, just because oral has the potential for being a power trip/purely for pleasure act/a gift doesn't mean it can be any less of an act of love. It all depends how you go about it. Neither my partner or I approach intimacy of any kind without remembering that we love each other and want to express it physically. And you say my relationship is worth less than yours because I let sex drive become involved? What a load of bitch. Long post is long. OP: You're awesome for doing that, but I wouldn't do it again until you get him to stop throwing temper tantrums whenever he doesn't do well in game. FYL.

Oh, I'm so sorry; you must have mistaken this for a marxist-feminist bitter-at-men pajama-party . This is not the place. For the record, you are obviously compensating for penis envy in that you seek to completely control a penis, and the fear that you exhibit is probably the result of an overbearing father that made you felt threatened, which you again associated with the possession of a phallus and therefore power. Women like you cry 'rape' at every interval, when you really mean 'Help, I feel threatened by a phallus, just like I felt threatened by my father'.

I am glad that that works for you and its entirely possible that he is as innocent as you. Depends on how old you are too. But just saying he is going to want more at some point, including a bj. And I'm not saying always do that kind of stuff, but like other people have said yes its for pleasure but its also showing your love when you are so selfless that you are willing to do something which doesn't necessarily do anything for you but does a lot for the other person. I don't think I would be happy myself with just kissing for an entire year, but I've also never wanted to only kiss someone I'm in a serious relationship. I'm glad you have him but watch out for him cheating. If he can't get anything else, not even a feel he may try to go somewhere else. I'm not trying to diss your bf or anything. I'm just trying to remind you not to be naive and be played. Just watch out for that cause props to you for not doing anything, but if he hasn't expressed interest in doing anything else in a year I might worry... I really do wish you well. I just know how it's like to have your heart broken and be cheated on because you weren't willing to give them what they wanted sexually.

paper_aer0plane. I didnt no I had to use proper grammer and speling on fml.com...whhen did grammer popo show up? hahahahahahaha. What did you think of that post? Sorry, too tempting to annoy the grammar freaks of the world, had to respond :)

ur stupid...the only reason u have this view is cuz nobody will slepp with ur nasty ass....get a life

just wondering, has he ever gone down on you? Because THAT would be the female version of a ******** therefore a power trip and you would be a hyporcrit if you didn't reciprocate.

Misguided- your relationship would be exactly the kind that I completely approve of. People keep forgetting that the FML I was originally bashing was a guy who paid more attention to his video game than his girlfriend who was trying to show him she would do something special for him on his birthday. Someone- You seemed to miss the part where I said it's not always bad? No self-respecting girl would be completely fine with giving a guy a ******* while he's playing call of duty. That's not an act of love, on the guy's part at least. And where exactly did I say your relationship was worth less than mine because of your sex drive? I don't recall saying that. What I did say was in response to the people who were commenting on what we could do in a relationship for over a year without sex.I bet there are plenty of relationships better than mine that do everything I don't. I would bet everything I owned on it. Freudianego made me laugh. You're right. I want a dick. Allstar- After a year, of course it's not all we've wanted to do. It's all we've chosen to do. I have faith in him, and if he cheated on me, he wouldn't be the first. I'm not saying no forever, just no for now. And Souljahboy... pleny uf ppl wood slepp with my 'nasty ass', starting with my boyfriend if I let him.

yea sure pretend u have a boyfrend on the net stop writing essays nobody cares about ur opinion

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**If you subscribe to Freudian principles. Readers with common sense, please ignore.

As long is there is respect in a relationship it doesn't matter what sexual acts that couple does. If two people are comfortable together, sex and oral sex can be a great way to express intimacy and attraction and also receive pleasure without dealing with pregnancy. Sometimes its one-sided, but that happens in married relationships too. It's irrelevant. Choosing to abstain is fine, but that doesn't give you the right to make judgments about other people's personal choices. I don't think people should talk shit about what they don't know about.

"I know we have a relationship that's built around something other than lust and hormones. Next time you keep a guy around for a year with nothing more than a kiss and a good personality, you let me know." ^That. It translates to "Relationships involving lust and hormones [before a year] aren't as good/meaningful." If that's not what you wanted heard, say what you mean the first time. Also, what a "self respecting girl" would do is subjective. I personally see nothing wrong with pleasuring someone while they're playing COD or whatever else. That's not demeaning unless the giver doesn't want to do it. Letting someone fulfill their fantasy is fine within the limits both parties are comfortable with. And besides, I'd bet after that happened, the favor would be well returned. Again, say what you mean. If you want others to know you're okay with their choices, don't open with "That guy is a disgusting pig," and only say you're okay with it after everyone disagrees.

Um WOAH. Hold on. That is completely incorrect on what you're saying about birth control. My mother had breast cancer and my grandmother died of cervical cancer, so I made sure to RESEARCH and ASK my doctor before going on it for my cramps. It is COMPLETELY false that birth control causes cancer. It CAN create non-cancerous lumps in the breast, but that is just fat deposits from the hormones.

lolololololol i cant stop laughing at this FML. and GabriLee, stfu.

Yeah, because pleasure is so so wrong. Live a little, it won't hurt

I agree with #36, if your boyfriend requests a BJ for his birthday WHILE he's playing a video game, it's time to find a new boyfriend. Why are girls so obsessed with dating assholes?

fyl for being a feminist prude

It's nearly every male Call of Duty players' dream to receive head from his girlfriend (or boyfriend). Has nothing to do with lack of self-respect. I'd do it just to know that I've made my fiancé happy. He doesn't have to ask, but I know he will enjoy it, and that's enough for me. I recognize that this is an old FML, but I doubt that things have changed in the ways of sexual pleasure that drastically in about 5 years.

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