YDI. Why did you "wait" until marriage. That's so stupid.

I'd say, sexphobia, she's not truly heterosexual, she cheating on you, she doesn't love you, paranoid of getting preggers, was scared by the size of your penis (one of the extremes, extremely small or extremely big), is scared that it hurts the first time, mentally handicapped. I was just trying to list the full list of possibilities. Try talking about the more likely selection of those. :)

Congrats on being able to wait until marriage. You've exhibited a great deal of patience and willpower. This, however, is one of the risks of doing that. I'm going to have to go with both FYL and YDI on this one. Sex should not be the focal point of a relationship, but it *should* be *a* point in a relationship, particularly after marriage. Denying our natural sex drive makes about as much sense to me as denying our need for acceptance or our need for human interaction. Sure, we can live without it, but why, when the alternative is so much better and easier? That being said, if you believe that sex should belong only to a married couple, that's fine with me as long as your partner agrees. In that case you're risking sexual incompatibility, and you're never going to be as experienced as someone who is more promiscuous in their earlier years; you learn something different from everyone. And similarly, someone who has sex with multiple partners accepts the risk of STDs, or takes precautions to protect against them. So, yeah, that sucks, but it's the risk you took. And in the meantime...she sounds to me like a victim of abuse...*possibly* of the type of upbringing that some have described, but that's a very violent reaction, and if that sort of upbringing has had that kind of effect on her, she's almost certainly damaged and in need of help in many other ways. But if you love her enough to marry her without first having sex, you probably love her enough to stick with her...just make sure that you get her some help.

FYL dude! L O L ! ! !

Read the writing on the walls: She was probably sexually assaulted when she was younger, and she used the 'waiting until marriage' as an excuse not to talk about this with you yet. She freaked out the wedding night because this excuse was no longer valid, and it was a real possibility. You should really talk to her about this, and find out what happened, get her to go to counseling.

It could just be that she has been having nerves all day, or she doesn't know much sexually. Someone may have been feeding her nonsense about how much it hurts for women, or maybe you're overly endowed. Could be she's tried masturbating and it hurts (extra thick hymen ftl). Or like others have said, she has been abused in the past. Talk to her. Find out what's wrong, don't just put your back up because you're assuming things about what she thinks. Be patient with her. Love her.

so did she still?

You're probably screwed, you either got someone who just doesn't like sex in which case your best luck case is she'll end up tolerating sex but never get into it, or you got someone who was sexually abused and you've got a life long project on your hands.

My guess is she's lesbian or abused. In either case, now that you're committed fully, it's your duty to help figure out the problem, get her help, and move on, perhaps separately. Make the most of the situation by being a good person and dealing with the facts.

couples therapy ASAP.