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Chatroom talking to Chester the molester pretending to be sweet Sarah from home room

it's as if you people think someone this smart doesn't know how to use incognito. and besides, just because you search something like how to make meth doesn't mean he actually does want to or even can - I've looked up how to make all sorts of illegal stuff out of curiosity, anarchist cookbook

34, or just kick back and watch Mr. White do his thing

Pornography. I mean whats the worst that can happen right? How about molesting your step sister thats half your age? Oh thats no big deal.

Okay, I'm sorry for what happened to your niece but you can not blame pornography for what your nephew did. He did not get the idea to molest his sister from the Internet, and blaming it is basically condoning his actions. At his age he should know that touching someone that doesn't want it, especially his sister, is wrong, and if he didn't know that then it was not the Internet but the parents who are at fault. Where was the parenting? And I'm not talking about parental controls, I mean actual communication. They should have realised that he was getting older, and therefore he would be experimenting with his body, and a part of that is ****. Telling children **** is evil isn't helpful but explaining to them that it isn't real so they don't get unrealistic expectation is helpful. **** isn't evil and it is a good way to release sexual tension as long as it isn't abused. I have watched **** for a long time and never have I wanted, or even thought about, molesting someone. Something in his head told him that it was acceptable, and that is not the fault of pornography, or the Internet in general. So please, do not condone your nephews behaviour by blaming ****.

So you're saying to keep a long leash so you cannot control them

As someone who recently was once a teenager, you're only raising them to be sneaky and know how to lie. Believe it or not, teenagers don't need to be smothered constantly like they did when they were 7. By being controlling and overprotective, you're just drastically increasing the chances of a sneaky rebellion, even if you think your child is a perfect angel.

Your kids or not, everyone deserves some sort of privacy especially teenagers, they're still human beings. If you're really worried about what they're accessing on the internet, use the parental controls to block certain sites. Checking history every time they get on the computer looks like you don't trust them, not like you're trying to protect them. Good luck getting them to open up to you.

If your child isn't allowed to make mistakes, they're not allowed to learn from them. You do NOT want your child to not trust you. You do NOT want your child to be afraid to talk to you. That's how the REALLY bad stuff happens. That's how you FAIL to protect your children. You need to teach your child *why* some things are off limits. If it's a family computer, then you need to explain that you will be keeping an eye on their stuff - and if it's their private computer, you need to impress upon them the responsibility that entails, and that if you must absolutely keep an eye on their history - tell them that, and explain why. If they don't like it, that's one thing. But it's important that they at least *understand it*. If you can't communicate to them, then that's your failure.

by the time I was 13-14, I had full privacy and availability of the internet. I never did anything terrible, and I'm a pretty good person. yes, everyone is different, but the younger generations are far more tech-savvy and I guarantee you that if they want to do something they will, and you won't know anything about it.

Whoa. I'm honestly shocked by the second part of this. So basically, if you're doing something wrong and see stuff you didn't like, you are going to blame the other part for pushing you into snooping in the first place? That's bordering on the line to emotional abuse.

But OP lied to his kid

"Promises be damned"...really? As a parent you're supposed to be the 1st person your child knows they can trust no matter what. Judging by what was written, OP's kid already knew he was snooping and just wanted to see if OP would tell him the truth. You want to look into what they're doing fine, but don't lie about it if they bring the subject up because it just shows they can't trust anything you say and no one respects a liar, title "be damned".

Just because the parent's taking care of their own child doesn't make their child property. That doesn't give them carte blanche to treat their kid however they want and still feel like they're in the right. Your job is to raise your child to be able to navigate and maintain healthy relationships, and to feel secure as a person. This doesn't have to mean a lack of discipline, just a presence of respect. If you teach them from an early age that whoever has power in a relationship has the right to lie, disrespect privacy, and generally disrespect the other, you're setting them up for failure and a whole bundle of trust issues.

As a child who went through emotional abuse, don't compare the two. Don't.

BULLSHIT. By saying they won't look through the history, OP told their child that they trust him to behave appropriately while surfing the web. The kid broke the trust first. A parent has evey right to to look as they see fit. So no, OP didn't break a promise, the son overstepped boundries first. And the son needs to know that what he is doing isn't okay. So yes, Promises be damned.

You completely missed the point. OP broke a promise the second it came out of his mouth because it was a LIE and he knew it. You say the kid broke the trust first, but how would he know that unless he looked through history, which again OP swore he wouldn't do. Don't punish your child because YOU lied. If you're going to look through your kids activities then be up front about it and let them know that you will if you feel the need to instead of letting them think that it would NEVER happen. That was my point. And please stop trying to pull the "Parent" card like the title is supposed to make everything you do right because it doesn't.

Finally, someone gets it!