For the love of the gods get some self respect. So you reach the end of your tether with a lazy ass husband and use the only thing left to get him to wash a dish but you would hope he is sleeping with someone else instead? Do you wait by the door with his pipe, slippers and a beer too? Ot do you just lie down and let him wipe his feet on your back? Its not about bribing him for sex its about using the only thing he truly cares about to finally get some help. I do not believe for a second that she is going to wait for the points to add up but has set such a high number so that he wont do one dish then call it finished.

You're presuming alot about the OP. But let's substitute him with my husband who is lazy and forgetful sometimes. I have to remind him every day to take out the garbage. H e does it, but I have to remind him. That doesn't mean he isn't trying to be helpful, he's just not used to it. The problem the OP has is there has been a failure to communicate. His wife may even be talking, but that doesn't mean it's getting through to him. Seriously, marriage counseling makes more sense than that "reward points" nonsense. As I said before, that way lies madness. If I ever got that far with my hubby our marriage would have a lot more problems than him giving up on me and sleeping with some one else. And as far as self respect goes, I have plenty thanks. Marriage is give and take, and presently ours is working quite well in that respect. OP's wife isn't giving him any way to address the actual issue, so how can he do anything for her? If I have given up on trying to communicate with my husband I'm not going to try and give him the run around to get what I want. It's either marriage counseling or divorce before we drive each other bonkers. OP--and if we're talking about him, my husband--should have more self respect than to put up with that crap. I don't think you've ever been married have you? It's not all black and white, and dealing with people isn't as simple as speaking to them.

Actually it is that simple. Thats how it works in my relationship, we talk, sometimes argue but the house runs smooth our kid is well looked after and loved and we are all very happy. I know it is not all black and white and no i have never been married but marriage is not the only form of serious relationship. The point is I would never ever think it is acceptable for my partner to sleep with someone else even if i had decided to implement something like this. Oh and FYI marriage counseling is the beginning of the end. Once it has got to counseling it has gone too far.