because telling people you want to be left alone to deal with grief is basically an invitation for everyone to bug you with well meqning advice and sympathy. there is a lot of people who juat need peace to think and ignoring people is the easiest way to do that. yes it seems harsh but you can make reparations later.

No, 151. He just had to tell his girlfriend that he needed some time alone and would be turning his phone off. Then she had known. There are no excuses for making someone worry. She could have been panicking all day, thinking he had been in a traffic accident and was now dying in the ER.

I hate when people say, "Military wives have it so hard..." I understand it must be scary to be a police/fireman/military wife, but in most cultures you choose who you marry. "I love him" is not really an excuse, because if it hurts you to be with someone like that then you should move on and let them find someone who is willing to handle their schedules. But you sign up for that, you know what you are getting in to. Other people need someone who is there regularly, they are not drama queens or pathetic for wanting to have that person be open and around when they are needed. Op's girlfriend was a bitch, but Op sounds like he in in HS or college, so he should usually be around when she needs him. She should not treat him like that, but being worried or upset because someone is not around is not wrong.