By themarrowguy - 23/08/2013 10:06 - United States

Today, after recently discovering that I need a bone marrow transplant, my girlfriend got tested to see if she could be a donor. When the results came back with a negative match, she blurted out, "Oh thank god." FML
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Welshite 39

She still got tested. I think she would have gone through with it if she was indeed a match, but anyone (including myself) would be dreading the surgery.

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AnthonyWheeler15 24

It was a nice gesture that she tested to see if she could, but that wasn't really a proper response, even if she was afraid to go through with the procedure. Good luck finding a doner OP!

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QQmore_fml 18

That really sucks man, I hope the list isn't very long! I can see where she's coming from too, her replay seems as if she would do it if she was a match, but was relived that she didn't have such an obligation, as ****** up as it is.

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TheHeavyOne 15

She clearly cares about you as she went through the tests to see if she was a match but I understand her relief because that would have been a painful procedure. I think she would have done it had she been a positive match. I don't think you should take her relief as sign of not caring for your plight.

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Ryodin 11

It sounds like she would have done whatever she needed to do to help you. Being a marrow donor is a horrifically painful and invasive experience, she _should_ be relieved she isn't a match and doesn't have to go through that. That doesn't mean she isn't also upset she can't help you. People have conflicting desires sometimes.

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carriealice 2

It is not painful or invasive!!! More often than not you're asked to give a PBSC(peripheral blood stem cell) donation where they take blood from one arm and put it back in the other. It takes a few hours but oh well! Even if they take actual marrow, you're in and out in the same day usually. Damn, educate yourself before opening your mouth!!

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RedPillSucks 31

So you're saying the people who went through this procedure are lying about the pain they experienced? I believe that the stem cell donation thing doesn't always work, in which case they'd have to do it the old fashion way, which is more painful.

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SMHsohard 22

And you obtained your Medical or Nursing degree where? Beyond that, you're saying that people who have had firsthand knowledge of the procedure are obviously mistaken in their recollection of it? Troll.

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kurk626 11

Having signed up on the bone marrow registry myself, what #58 said is basically everything that the pamphlet tells you.

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jessBeAqueen 13

OP I'm sure that if she was a match she wouldve gone through with it. she took the test for a reason. its a scary procedure and a sense of relief just took over. you can't blame her. she shouldve just been more sensitve about it. good luck to you op

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knoxxx 22

Well, she was obviously trying to be supportive by getting the test and probably got overwhelmed part of the way through. I'm sorry you need the transplant, OP. Hopefully this minor incident doesn't drive her out of your life, it's important to have people who love and care for you when you're going through something like this.

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Ctrl_H 18

Don't take it personally man, nobody likes surgery. Good luck with what I'm guessing is cancer and hopefully you find a donor.

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akaiberry 15

She marrowly avoided a very painful and serious operation, she's allowed some relief. At least she got tested OP, whether she was a match or not the fact that she did means she really cares.

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SilencioIsTheKey 12

That's really rude of her. She should be ashamed. (It is painful though..) I'd gladly do the same for my boyfriend if not more :/. I bet you'd do the same for her too. Good luck with finding a match!

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