Wow. Not all relationships are built on threats. Some of us have healthy relationships.

Indeed, but based on OP's story she doesn't. Seen it so many times. Why else is hubby avoiding sex for weeks?

I highly doubt that he went into their marriage not knowing that she would want children sometime in the future. It's the kind of thing you discuss when planning your life together with someone. It's not unusual or unexpected for a married woman to want a baby, I find it difficult to believe that OPs husband was blind sighted by her desire to have a baby.

55, While I'm sure things like that happen, that doesn't necessarily make it the case here. Even if, as you and others suspect, OP and her husband aren't on the same page when it comes to children, that doesn't mean that OP has ever threatened to leave her husband, or that her husband doesn't want to have children in the future. You're making a pretty big assumption about OP's marriage. That's like me saying, "Let's be honest here. It was YOU who agreed to have children before your were married, then changed your mind after the wedding." You don't like it when someone does it to you, huh? Plus, the tone in your post makes it sound like women are somehow bitchy for wanting a family.

To begin with I in no way generalized anything at all about the avg woman who wants children. My reasoning for my opinion is: 1: OP said "We've decided to have a baby...." 2: If he really was a meaningful part of the decision making he'd want to get the ball rolling. 3: Since no one older than 10 or 12 would ever think the proffered reason makes any sense its clear he's stalling. 4: If he's stalling, points 1 and 2 are unlikely to be true. 5: Having experienced this exact scenario myself, and personally knowing others who also have then I know such things do happen.

Yes, OP said, "We decided," not "My husband agreed to have children." Even if that sort of thing happened to you, I don't sere why you would immediately jump to the conclusion that that's what's happening here. There's nothing in the FML to suggest that. Even if OP's husband only said he wanted children because OP does, that doesn't necessarily mean she threatened or even pressured him into it. This may come as a shock to you, but some people agree to do things they don't want to do simply to please their partner, not because they've been manipulated.

It's far more likely I am right than it is her husband is that dumb.

There's no way for you to know that, unless you somehow track statistics on reproductive ignorance. Also, as I explained, just because the husband may be faking his stupidity, doesn't mean that OP threatened to divorce him unless he agreed to have children.

BTW, I don't think you understand the meaning of the word, "blackmail." I think the word you were looking for was, "ultimatum."