"I finally cracked the password on my husband's email account" FAIL

That's what you get for being a nosy bitch. Next time you want to know something about your husband just ask him.

I doubt that would happen for a number of reasons, but yes, laziness on your partner's part can go a long way towards the destruction of a relationship. Statistically the chances of her husband finding some young tramp after "money" aren't good (this person is probably poor-average). One can only assume it was someone nearly the man's age, just far more "in shape" than his wife is. It's sooooo rare for a guy to cheat on a hot wife for a reason.

Why do you think she manually tried a bunch of passwords? She most likely would have run an automated program or a keylogger. Anyway maybe he just never changed it? A lot of people store their passwords in the auto-save and forget what they even are.

Ahaha, you deserve it you nosy bitch.

"Today, I finally cracked the password on my husband's email account" Seems to imply she has been after this for awhile. "Finally" is usually used after a large attempt/long period of time. She also seemed to imply she "guessed" the name of his ex in the password and was upset by that.

118 - I agree that it's not an acceptable reason to cheat. However, when a guy marries a woman and she puts on a considerable amount of weight, he doesn't want to have sex with her. My husband and I talked about this a lot before we married. His ex-wife did that. She was thin and actually attractive when they first met, but she, like many other women, had this attitude that "Ok, I've got my man, I don't have to keep my appearance up anymore". That's selfish, gross, etc etc etc. And yeah, physical attraction is a huge part of a serious relationship. I'd be pretty upset if my hubby let himself go like that, put on a lot of weight, whatever. Likewise, he would be less attracted to me physically if I let myself go like that. To the OP: Your marriage was doomed from the start. If you guys aren't sharing passwords, etc, there's bound to be more secrets, like the one you just found out. Your relationship has been founded upon lies. I can't decide between YDI or FYL. It sucks, either way, but you were obviously in a flawed relationship before the cheating started.

Well.... the password isn't so bad because sometimes people get lazy and don't change them. The 'several people cheating' part is horrible so FYL. But YDI for snooping. He probably cheated because he needed to get away from you, Mrs.Idontbackoff.

violating someone's privacy is serious business, regardless of what they may or may not have done. eavesdroppers never hear anything good (and often hear what they suspect).

You shouldn't have been snooping, the fact that you said "finally" shows that you may well have a problem, but he was worse in cheating, so FYL. I wouldn't go so far as to say YDI because your snooping does not amount to his cheating. Another thing, his password might well be an old one, and I don't see how you could even compare that to the cheating, so I don't see how you can't decide which is worse. So he was the worst, but you were in the wrong for being nosy.