How's this not an FML? She had a one-night stand. This is 2015. It happens. That dude is literally holding her wallet ransom for a date. While a date is pretty tame, it's still not right. You should never pressure someone into doing something with you like that. That's ****** up. She doesn't want to see him and she shouldn't have to go on a pity-date to get her property back.

In fairness, the guy may not have been aware that he wasn't interested when he said that. He might have actually thought it was cute way to ask her to dinner.

Yeah. But it's not a cute way to ask her out. It's gross. And creepy.

I bet the guy would tell the situation differently. "I'll give you your wallet back (unconditionally), but as a token of appreciation, why don't you let me take you out?"

OP specifically states that he said she HAS to let him take her out to dinner. That isn't cool. It's creepy. This isn't really something up for discussion. She doesn't have to do anything because that insinuates that she owes him. Which she doesn't. He, on the other hand, has a legal obligation to give her her wallet back.

yes op said that... glad we agree but there are 3 sides to every story... sadly we will never know his side or the truth.

If she were interested in him, she probably wouldn't have even thought it was creepy. Let's be honest, whether or not you think a person's actions are creepy is directly linked to how attractive and interesting you think they are.

#65 - Example, once when I found out I had been dating a girl who stalked me prior to our relationship, I was like, "D'awwwwwwwww". THAT IS NOT A COMMON REACTION, but I liked her a lot, so it was cute in my eyes. Even though anybody else would've called her a creep.

36, he didn't steal her wallet. She left it at his house. Returning it would be the right thing to do, but he has no legal obligation to do so.

It depends on location. If he found it, he could just drop it off with the police and be done with it. He does have to return it, but he doesn't have to call her up and say he found it.

Then girls, don't sleep with someone and then expect him to know you're not interested.

I hate to be the one to say this, because I typically loathe the person who does, but I can't help but feel that if the gender roles were reversed, everyone would feel very differently about the situation. Well, maybe not everyone, because rather than a few dissenters, there would be a unanimous "You jerk! How dare you just use her for sex like that and think you can cast her aside so casually like she's just some sort of discardable sex object???" sentiment. I think because OP's a lady, the "feminist" crowd is getting all indignant that a woman is being criticized for being "sexually independent."

How about we're all just scumbags if we sleep with people without making it clear that it's a one-night stand? Men and women.

Although now that I've really looked at it, I don't see a gender specification for the OP. It's just a generic "anonymous." Maybe OP is actually a man? Who knows. Hm. I wonder if that changes things for anybody.

#14, the only 2 things that you got right was that she's not morally corrupt for having a one night stand and that she's not obligated to go out with him so I'll point out where you went wrong - calling the police because you left something at someones house (pretty sure they have real problems to deal with) - telling the police it's missing when you know exactly where it is (again with the real problems!) -this is clearly not a case of legitimate blackmail, it's a funny way of asking her on a date - FFS she gave him her phone number! How is he supposed to know that it was just a one night stand and that he shouldn't ask her out to dinner if she gave him a way to contact her again??!! - asking a woman out to dinner after you had sex with her is not creepy - she left it at his house, he has ZERO legal obligations to return it, he can throw it in the trash if he wants

Thank you for that. Seriously wtf is up with all these comments

This is one of the few sensible comments in this thread.

How do we know she gave him her number? He could have get it from her phone while she went to the bathroom or used her ID to search online for the number. Even called the police and asked for the info so he could return it.

I would be outraged either way, this is not cool to do to a person. If I were OP, I would threaten to report them for theft if they failed to return it.

Not if both parties knew. He could have said "hey at least I'm getting something" and then saw this as a way to force her to date him. Op would be a bitch for using him but he's ****** up for doing this.

A hook up is a hook up. You shouldn't assume it's anything more unless you and your partner specifically specified it was.

I bet there would be. I hear stories all the time of guys sleeping with girls and then leaving them, sometimes pregnant. Don't "hump 'em and dump 'em," regardless of your gender.

Funny you say that. I was actually just replying to an above comment by explaining how I think there would be even MORE criticism if OP were a man and the other person a woman.

Absolutely. If this was a guy telling this story so many people would be ripping on him for leading the poor girl on and then getting the hell out afterwards. As far as I'm concerned the OP didn't do anything wrong by having a one night stand with a guy she wasn't that interested in as long as she didn't lead him on in any way. Lots of guy would be quite happy to have a girl say that they were only interested in a night of sex. Might even find it a turn on. So there's really no excuse for leading a guy on in that way.

I don't know where you and people like #119 are getting this idea, this FML has more than 10,000 more YDIs than FYLs and the comments vastly reflect that. Clearly most people think OP is a heartless floozy who needs to give this poor "nice guy" a chance.

Or call the police and explain that a guy you had a one night stand with is holding your property hostage unless you date him.