Poetry? Really? Come on.

I agree with #63 - you tried your best, that's all that matters. If he can't appreciate the effort and only focuses on how "lame" he thinks the content is, then he's either the totally unromantic type (and not for you since you would write a poem) or a jerk. It could also be that he would hate poems in general but appreciate one written for him, but didn't know it. Maybe when he finds out it'll be his own FML - that he said it was lame before he knew who wrote it. But that's just being really optimistic; I think maybe he's just not the right person for you. You deserve better :)

Guys (without being gay) can like poetry. My ex loved my poetry, but he was kinda of poetic himself. If he doesn't appreciate it then find yourself one that will. But seriously, that's the guy you fell for?

well atleast he didn't know it was you, so it was the best "bad" scenario that could have taken place I think.

While that does suck, like many said on her, there are a lot of guys who are not that fond of poetry. Just like I am sure there are girls who are not that into the whole mushy stuff. I wrote a poem for my now husband when we were dating. As a graphic designer, I even designed the image that the text was printed in. I framed it and gave it to him as a present. When he unwrapped it, the first thing he did was comment on how I had accidentally put the image in the frame crooked. Needless to say, I never wrote him another poem, but am obviously still with him. To the OP, the guy you wrote the poem for could be a very romantic guy, but maybe things like poetry should be the guy giving it to the girl. Just like flowers. I enjoy it when my parents or husband send me flowers. I surprised my now husband one time with a visit and had brought him a single red rose. I kind of got a "what am I supposed to do with this" look. Not that I really blame him thinking back though.

guys can love poetry without being gay.. I have read the divine comedy many times and all works Emily Dickinson, Poe, Frost.. Etc. and I am straight as hell. besides Jim Morrison is awesome.

They should totally add a "That's hilarious!" option to the two they already have.

Why is it that every time someone posts that they got shot down in one way or another there are just tons of people ready to attack the person who rejected them? It sounds like the guy in this case was clear that he didn't want to date you and in the process gave you helpful advice. I mean just get over it. This sort of thing happens to everyone (well the vast majority of people at least) so there's no use bitching about it online. to the people that didn't catch this btw, when the guy said " [he'd] never date someone who could come up with something that lame." He was saying no. It admittedly comes off as rude, but he was kind of thrown into an awkward situation. He had to let this girl down and not leave any room for interpretation (as many people can tell you, that's how you get stalkers or you put yourself in a position where this girl thinks you might actually like her if she tries another tactic.) He handled it as best he could.

Sigh. I can't believe how many people are so closed-minded as to think they know what turns off "most" guys. FYL because you tried your best (I assume?) and he didn't appreciate it, but you have to realize that he meant no offense since he didn't know it was by you, much less that you wrote it for him. I write my bf love poems too :) He's not much of a poetry reader but it's only creative thing I do that anyone likes. He always thanks for for them and sometimes actually likes them and he wrote me one himself once. But sometimes he'll still be a little insensitive. I think you should either find a way of compromise or find a more sensitive guy.

Well, you didn't tell him you wrote it! Three possible situations: 1. He has no appreciation for poetry 2. You can't write poetry 3. Both 1 and 2 I mean, if he didn't know you wrote it, he was probably just giving his opinion. He probably didn't intend to hurt you. I would've done the same -- however if I was told beforehand that someone with feelings for me had written it I would be kinder. I agree you shouldn't try to be a literary genius though. If there's one kind of poem that's difficult to write -- it's love poetry! The tendency of irony to bite one in the ass (as you can see this has already happened) is simply huge, especially if you're not good with stylistic devices and/or do not have a lyrical bone in you. 58: the question is why one writes poetry. Perhaps the bigger question would be, what IS poetry? Why should poetry be the right medium with which to express something? If I love someone why not write a letter in plain, simple prose? These questions are not very important when you're writing poetry in your own room, but they ARE important when you consider the fact that you're using an artform for your own purposes. I believe that even if you don't intend to publish or show anyone the poems, these ARE questions you have to ask. It's the only way you'll learn to express yourself better: by finding out whether the form is indeed the 'right one' for you. Is 'creativity' an instrinsic part of 'poetry' or is it something merely associated with the idea of poetry? I know too many people who think they're 'artistic' because they write 'poems' (by which I mean the verses contain a metaphor or two, and then rhyme, or are lavishly decorated with cliches) -- but in fact this simply would be subscribing to an uncritical line of thinking, which substitutes 'poetry' for banality, feeding one's narcissism and in fact eventually destroying the difference between crap and creativity. (of course there are whole bunches of people who make banality un-banal: 'the meanest flower that blows can give/ thoughts too deep for tears' -- still it takes tons of talent and effort to recreate this effect in text)