But she probably suspected it.

Besides, maybe her trust issues are the reason he felt the need to distance himself from her and be with someone else.

I think it's pretty clear that she strongly suspected that he was cheating on her, but didn't have any solid evidence to go on, so she wanted to check and make sure something was up before she confronted him. Imagine if she had accused him before having any evidence -- he could deny it easily and then he would know his wife knew something was up, thus become more secretive and make it more difficult to prove his guilt. I don't blame her for going through his e-mail one bit. And there's never an excuse for cheating. If he was having problems with their relationship/sex life/whatever, he should man up and discuss it with her.

That wouldn't be evidence - all he'd have to do is come up with some lame bullshit about work stress or something, as cheating people often do, and she wouldn't be able to do a damn thing more about the situation. Snooping was wrong, yes, but you keep commenting like the husband here is completely innocent or even decent enough to admit his indiscretions. If he's as big of an asshole and dishonest enough to step out of his marriage what sounds like many times with multiple women, what would ever make you think he'd be honest now, if she confronted him without any hard evidence??

#84 even if her trust issues triggered his cheating, cheating is still an incredibly immature way to deal with your relationship problems. he should have actually dealt with it head on.

Um, excuse me? My ex cheated on me and I am the girlfriend that treats their boyfriend like a king. I did everything he asked me (with a few exceptions because of morals) and was, according to him, "the best thing that ever happened to him." My parents paid for new tires for his car and even after he cheated and me and ended up with a kid I was supporting him - until he did drugs behind my back. Just because someone cheated on me doesn't mean I'm not that great, and I'm sure that stands for the OP as well.

Why are you blaming the person who got cheated on? WTF? Even if the person is doing something wrong, their partner should have enough respect and basic decency to bring it up with them and either solve the problem or end the relationship. Cheating is not okay. It's ******* low, and you're probably just as low for condoning it.

To 236, the same thing happened to me [well, minus a few things]. At first, people said "well, you didn't do enough for your boyfriend". When I would name everything I did on a daily basis, I was then told "well, you obviously did too much and let him just kick back and relax". There's no reason to be cheated on - whether you did absolutely nothing or you did absolutely everything. There's nothing in between, ever.

Cheating does not always stem from the woman being sexually distanced, you know.. Quite a few instances of cheating occurred when their sex life was still very much active; some people just can't be faithful. >_>