If that were true, he wouldn't have reacted the way he did, don't you think?

I couldn't have said it better. Guys ca be absent minded and leave things lying around sometimes... Just let it be. I bet shes the type who goes looking for her Christmas gifts...

I agree with that completely, I didn't mean he should make a big proposal even though she found the ring, but maybe some champagne to toast the beginning of an engagement would be nice, even if things didn't go as planned. :)

Bit over the top there, not exactly ruining it. Ruining it would him turning around and being oh that yeah um that's for my other girlfriend.

That's definitely I little over the top! It was potentially a big moment in his life to seeing as they'd have to wait to see if the girl says yes. Maybe she actually ruined his idea!

Seriously 17? So her bf made a mistake by leaving the ring there, but if anyone really ruined something it was OP. She shouldn't have said anything about finding it and she should have let him propose to her in due time. He could have had something really romantic and expensive planned. And anyway if he's old enough to propose he's sure as hell old enough to do his own damn laundry. I don't see this as a reason to say no or to dump him. He was clearly upset.

To be honest #17, OP kind of ruined the moment herself.

But I can see why its his fault too. Why leave it somewhere where she could easily find it?

She like 10% deserves this. Your assuming he put in a massive amount of effort and planning he may have just been doing something small and simple also if he was planning something massive then it's safe to assume then he would have put the ring somewhere safe that would have been the first thing on his mind so she wouldn't discover it. OP could have put the ring back yes and left his dirty laundry but what happens then if she checks those pockets the next day and the ring is still there? I said earlier in a comment and I'm going to say it again that of the 2 mistakes made here the BFs is the bigger one. Cut OP some slack.

You said it too many times. We get it llama. Just... just stop now. Please

I'm not going to stop when people are blaming someone who at best is only at minor fault here. There are many reasons why putting the ring back might not have changed anything. Also as I have said many times the end result is what matters here if he had asked her she would have said yes and then if he did have any plans say a romantic dinner or something like that then he can still do it but instead it's not a celebration of them being engaged. So once again I am going to say it's only ruined if she said no which we know she wasn't going to say had he just asked her. In saying that though I am also against anyone saying she deserves better and romance is dead and whatever because that's where the fault of hers comes in because had she waited she might have gotten all that romance. So yes I'll admit thinking on it 10% is to light maybe 40% is a better blaming percentage for her.

Nope she's the 40% he's the 60%

Just shut up please. We get that you're on her side, let it rest. Damn.

llama, you keep making the same point over and over again. We get it already, you think the BF is more at fault and a lot of people disagree with you. We disagree with you because yes, while the BF should have put the ring in a better hiding place, he made an honest mistake. OP INTENTIONALLY went to her BF with the ring. She was too impatient to wait for her BF to propose to her romantically, which he had probably been planning on doing. She is more at fault here because her actions were intentional whereas the BF probably didn't mean to leave the ring there. Sure, he could have hid the ring in a better place but she could have shut the hell up about it and waited for him to propose. For all she knew, he wasn't even planning on proposing. He could have had that ring for a completely different reason. She's the one who jumped to the conclusion that he was proposing and then EXPECTED him to propose on the spot. I'm with the person who said that this is 60% her fault and 40% her boyfriend's fault.

I will not let it rest when you people continue to blame someone for something that was only a minor fault of hers. I never said the BF intentionally did it (except jokingly in a lower comment) but neither did OP if you look up mistake you will find one of it's meanings to be to make judgement caused by poor reasoning. Also everyone is assuming beyond reasonable doubt that the bf had something really romantic planned, if he did then wouldn't it stand to reason then that the first thing he would have planned is the place he is going to put the ring. Also OP didn't corner the guy she didn't try and force him she just eagerly gave him the ring in the hope he would propose now so her bf could have turned it around and been like oh sorry hun this is actually bobs ring I'm holding it for him or hun I can see you want me to propose but I have something special planned and I want to still do that so please wait. Instead he threw it back at her saying well you found it I don't actually have to ask now right? Which I think a lot of you are assuming was said in anger or upset when he could have said it more casually because he actually thought he no longer needed to ask, if it was said like that it more than likely means he isn't fussed by any plans he might have made.

95 - if you're not willing to rest until people agree with you then I suggest you crack open a can of redbull because you'll be here for a long time. Perhaps at this point we should all just agree to disagree.

Yes the better option would have been to wait and somehow not let the BF know she knows. Yes he made the mistake to leave it in his pocket she made the mistake of poor judgement and then he made the mistake of poor judgement which still leaves him one mistake up. Also he still could have made that moment special it could have been there quirky story to tell everyone and years down the track they would look back on it and laugh and realize it all worked out anyway (hopefully that's how it would turn out anyway). If two people truly love each other in the end it matters not how you ask or when you ask or where you ask all that matters is they say yes.

@star first off dammit I was hoping to be the 100th comment lol and I am very happy to agree to disagree if that had been mentioned earlier I would have done that. I admit everyone is allowed their own views. One of the reasons I kept going is people told me to shut up and get over it and what not which just fueled me on. I am getting tired though and do wish this to end so I'll end on this. After all the debating here and after everything that happened to OP and her bf in the end I hope it works out for them and they do get engaged and get married and are happy.

I love how everyone said to "put it back" **** his pants were dirty. Where the **** is she suppose to put it? Back into the dirty laundry? He'd still figure she found it. There was no way for her to put it somewhere where he wouldn't know she already knew. He was the idiot that probably bought it then left it in his pants.

Wow SHUT UP YOU'RE ANNOYING EVEN LLAMAS STOP SPITTING!!!!

You assume she is telling the truth about finding it in his pocket because she was doing laundry. A bit of me thinks she may have been snooping through his pants instead. Possible?

23 I totally agree!!! Usually when a guy buys an engagement ring he already has a plan for a proposal...no matter how big or small he wants to surprise the girl ! True he shouldn't have left it in his pants pocket but who knows, maybe his pants were not even in the laundry basket. Maybe OP just grabbed all his dirty clothes and discovered it. We don't know. Doesn't matter. If it were me and I discovered a ring I'd immediately put it back and pretend I didn't see anything!!! I would so rather wait to be asked than to ask him to do it right there!

Either party has valid reasons for thinking OP or her boyfriend is at more fault. But after we've all made our points just let it go, please? Llama-it makes it ten times more painful to read your comments when you don't use any punctuation and it's one big run-on sentence that makes be breathless while reading it in my head commas and periods are used for a reason!

Who says he had an elaborate plan? He left the ring in his pocket after buying it, and threw the trousers with the laundry. Sounds more like he wasn't bothered to put any effort in and forgot about it!

If you're going to make plans to propose then you're not going to leave the wedding ring in your dirty pants pocket you're going to take it out and find a good place to hide it. The bf got careless and because of that any plans he might have had got messed up because his overexcited GF found the ring and wanted him to propose to her then which I don't really see what the problem is since it means she is going to say yes which is the end result you want anyway. I think most people on here have watched to many romance movies and expect every guy in the world who is going to propose is going to do it in some grand way after spending months planning it. The only time a proposal is ruined is if she says no, if she is going to say yes guess what it's not ruined because you still get the end result you wanted.

47- I disagree with you. Almost every guy I know, including my own boyfriend, is looking forward to one day making a plan to propose. (I talk about weddings a lot) If a girl ruined their plan, I can see why they would be upset. The boyfriend in this FML easily could have come up with a wonderfully romantic proposal that got ruined. Yes, he left it in his pants, but OP shouldn't have just got up and taken it to him that second. He may not have thought about his girlfriend doing his laundry. Maybe she could have acknowledged that she found it, but let him do what he wants when the moment is right. And no, by the way, I don't watch romance movies.

57- I'm not saying the bf hasn't got a right to be upset sure he does if he had anything planned but it doesn't change the fact he is the one who made the mistake leading up to that point and when he had the chance to then just ask her to marry him he instead tosses the ring back and says well you found it so I don't actually have to ask now right? Also OP only states that she walked up eagerly to him and gave it to him she never asked him to propose sure she wanted him too but he could have just said babe I know you found it but I have something special planned for you even though it's not a surprise now I would really like to still do it that way. If OP had been snooping and then found it all blame is on her but she found it by accident and then got excited by it.

59- The way you worded your first comment just made it seem, to me at least, as if you were saying there was something wrong with people thinking it should have been romantic. If it was me in this situation, I wouldn't have even confronted him. Just put in on his dresser or with his things. They were both wrong here.

There isn't anything wrong with thinking it should have been romantic or making those moments romantic. Yes they are both at fault I just feel people were giving OP wayyyyyyyyy more blame than she deserved.

60: I know what you mean but even if she did that it would be glaringly obvious she'd found it.

69- Yes, it would be obvious that she found it, but then he still could have planned something sweet and romantic. You can't force a proposal. The moment needs to be right. :)

And you seem to be putting more blame on the GF than she deserves. I am only putting on as much blame as both parties deserve no more no less.

Have you thought about the fact that the girlfriend found it and instantly ran to him expecting him to do exactly what SHE wanted? It's not much of a stretch to think that the boyfriend normally does his own laundry, so didn't think she'd find it. There are also many other situations where he didn't have time to hide it. Like I said, it is partly his fault, but most of the blame is on her. I feel bad for the OP that her boyfriend was so cold after she approached him, but she can't just demand or expect an instant proposal.