Scientifically speaking, the ****** can and will stretch to accomadate any girth of penis. See, only the cervix is the only part that dialates, the vaginal canal is just muscles and stretches readily. I think op isn't arroused enough and that's why things are going poorly.

As a man, that seems to be a good problem to have, however, sucks for him because of it as well. Thanks for affirming that bigger isn't always better.

Or how about not letting him ram it in all the way all the time! Just needs to get the head in and that's it!

Talk to a sex therapist, there may be a solution for your issue. Extended foreplay may be the answer.

Try being on top, my girlfriend had the same problem until she got on top. Also foreplay is a must.

My wife & I had a similar issue, (she has had two kids before we got married & I'm not exactly super sized) but after we tried more foreplay, lube & gentle stretching of the opening before penetration...problem solved..but you may have a medical issue wherein your opening stays to constricted...please talk to your gyn/OBGYN to see if that's the issue or if you're just not lubricating enough. Hope you find a solution op.

Do some stretching!! Perineal massage should help with the tearing. Use a lot of lube and go slow it will get better. Your skin will stretch :)

Cheating Is always an option.

My ex was too big for me as well. It ain't always a blessing...

I have the exact same problem. I bleed & tear aswell. It bloody hurts. Then for a week after i have an infection. I hate it. Sometimes leads me to tears thats how painful it is. So i dont enjoy sex at all. I feel your pain! Sorry that it happens to you OP. its horrible.