I have that issue too, took me nearly half a year for the tearing to stop. I recommend lots of foreplay, lube if you need it, and have him go in very slowly. NEVER try to force him inside when you're not completely turned on. He'll need to keep going slowly & shallow until you feel comfortable, which can be hard for some guys but it's worth it. And, it sucks, but if you guys stop having frequent sex, the tearing might start up again. So good news is it gives you both an excuse to have sex as often as possible, but it stinks if one of you goes on a trip ):

There's a solution to that: Anal sex,

Try a lot of lubrication.

Wow! The problems some people have!? Oh, to have that problem!

You think you'd get use to it after a while!

1- don't dump a guy for being too big!! It's rude and has same horrible effects as dumping a guy with a small duck. 2- use more lube!! 3- foreplay to help u get more relaxed! If u are relaxed it won't hurt. 4- go SLOW, don't ram it in and if u like deep penetration u need to go slow! When u take everything slow u will notice how much more passionate sex is. U will stretch out more and guys don't care if u use lube. If he can use a toy he can use lube. ANAL IS NOT THE ANSWER PEOPLE! If the lube doesn't work, the doctor will find out why. If nothing is wrong, ur not sexually attracted to him. Get the spark back but don't dump him just cuz he's large!

Don't forget that your private parts can stretch to accommodate a baby's head exiting from your womb. So unless hubby is bigger then a baby's head (in which case wow!) I would say increase lube and foreplay. If you're tearing then either or both of you aren't being patient enough before penetration. Good luck!

I had that problem with my boyfriend too. A lot of people who've commented have some good advice.. LOTS of foreplay, LOTS of lube... I even had to take some muscle relaxers when we first started having sex, just because of the same reason, tearing and intense pain... I hope you can figure out how to be intimate with your hubby. Best of luck hun

Not to be a douche, but ever heard of cheating?

Not completely. There's always oral. Use tons of lube and ask him to be gentle.