By wellthisisbad - 29/02/2016 12:27 - United States - Boynton Beach

Today, I learned that not only am I pregnant, I'm too far along for an abortion. My husband and I originally bonded over the fact that we both hate children. FML
I agree, your life sucks 18 702
You deserved it 29 495

Same thing different taste

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CaptainHonor 15

Adoption. Then get yourselves fixed so you don't have another accident.

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Your husbands pull out game is not strong

mlbrins 2

:/ People are all demanding "why didn't you get your tubes tied?" like it's easy to get doctor approval for that. You don't just sign a paper and go into surgery. Doctors think women should wait, that we will change our minds. Complete horseshit.

Same issue. Depending on how old you are, doctors are just as reluctant to perform vasectomies on men. My husband is gathering information for a vasectomy and we're learning just how hard it's going to be to find a doctor to perform one on a 25 year old man who doesn't want kids at all and is married to a woman who thinks the idea of pregnancy is just horrific and can't stand babies. I'm the person who dodges the baby when a mom is looking for someone to hold it while she runs to the bathroom or everyone plays pass the baby so they can all get their turn to hold it. I love my youngest brother very, VERY dearly, but when he was born, my mom secretly thought I hated him or was jealous or something was wrong because I didn't want to hold him and just had no interest in him. To both of us, the sound of babies crying or kids whining or even kids playing is like fingernails on a chalkboard. All those feelings and doctors still want to tell people that they aren't allowed to significantly lower their risk of pregnancy.

Ive been trying for three years and no luck if you end up putting the baby for adoption i happily take him/her. Also im prochoice so no judgement here.

Out of interest, how come you didn't realise earlier OP?

If it wasn't for adoption, I wouldn't be here to tell you to consider it. Good luck.

kit9895 8

How does one get that far into the pregnancy without noticing any symptoms?

YDI for not using protection and for thinking abortion is an easy solution to this problem.

Wow, I never saw where the OP went into detail about which birth control they were or were not using, nor where they went into in detail what their feelings on abortion are. I doubt they think it's a simple thing, and many people get pregnant despite taking precautions. Life, uhh, finds a way.

they obviously have no problem with abortion. otherwise it wouldn't have been mentioned

Or they abhor the idea of abortion but would rather go through that than push another unwanted kid into an already-overflowing adoption system. Being willing to have an abortion isn't the same as treating it like an easy solution.

Try to find together a couple or family who will care and love the child, as if it was their own! There are so many couples who wish for kids and can't get them by themselves, so see it as your gift to these deserving people! To late to abort means still enough time to find caring parents, who will be better parents, if you both really don't want the child. See it as an experience and care for yourself and the baby, if you want (I know it sounds heartless, but if you really have no feelings for children) treat it like a kidney or stem cell donation. Try to give your best and give someone else a better life, see the positive side of it :)