It sounds like he was trying to find out if she wanted that life... he found out in a humiliating way that will cause him pain for the rest of his life. The concept of commitment, enduring relationships and children is constantly drilled into men. Some guys are nice and actually want it too. We're also constantly berated for wanting one night stands, short relationships and no commitments. This gives the impression that women simply want whatever you aren't. Say what you will about the simplicity of male thinking, but we don't care about any of that crap, we just adore you. Hey, even if the guy is shallow and goes for big boobs or pretty faces, at least they're attached to women. They're not interested in the car you drive, your job or how much money you have in the bank.

Agreed. My husband and I moved in together after 3 months, he proposed after 6 months and 1.5 years later we got married...that was almost 2 years ago. We also know that we want kids eventually but I'm still in college for at least 2 more years to get my M.A. so that'll have to wait. But it didn't freak me out at all when he proposed because I was absolutely sure he was the one. I would however have freaked a little if he had told me he'd wanted to start having kids right then and there...I'd only been 19 and had just started college...but it's nothing you can't talk about. She could have just told him that she's not even close to ready and he can either accept that or dump her and find someone who's ready.

Well you're still really early in the relationship, you can't say much IMO. Come back after you've been married for 5 years and then maybe I'll believe that getting married after 6 months works :P They say it takes 3 years to fully KNOW someone, and 6 months to get over the 'they're perfect' stage. Deciding that you want to stay together forever after 9 months seems a bit unrealistic to me.

Ha! "They say," very reliable. How about taking it upon yourself to get to know someone? Ask difficult questions, test out your recreation time, etc. That's all on you. My theory is that people who say things like, "It takes three years to really know someone" are taking a passive approach. It was said elsewhere, but if you've been seriously dating someone for an entire year and you're still "not sure," then you haven't been actively trying to find out.

#78, Willendrof, my parents knew each other for 6 months, were told by a band of wandering Gypsies to get married, so they eloped on his birthday, which he didn't have to work on. This November they'll be celebrating their 31st anniversary.

willendorf, just because they hadn't been dating long doesn't mean they hadn't known eachother for a long time before that anyways. I've only been with my fiance for 15 months, but I've been good friends with him for about 6 or 7 years. Also, my personal opinion is that its closer to one year, than 3.

Aww that's sweet Drewsius ^-^ I wish I could meet a Gypsy to tell me who I'm going to marry....=P