By BeforeItWasCool - 30/09/2012 09:30 - United Kingdom
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BeforeItWasCool
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Wow this seems to have been misinterpreted! It was unplanned, I was entirely surprised by it. We hadn't planned on kids- if it had been positive it would have been an accident. I was just quite happy to have such a nice surprise even if it did turn out to be negative. I was quite disappointed it was negative, not because I've been secretly trying to get pregnant, but because I was pleasantly surprised. It just seems my fiancé was a little too enthusiastic about the negative result.
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Congrats BeforeItWasCool, you got an fml published!!!
BeforeItWasCool
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Oh, thanks :)
Jinxx7
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You should rethink the idea of having a kid if your partner doesn't want one yet.
ideasrule
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Wait, you're trying to get pregnant, and he doesn't even know? Do you realize that if you got pregnant, he would be the father of your kids? This is an important decision for both of you, and it's utterly immoral to not get his approval beforehand.
OP wasn't trying to get pregnant. She's said that at least five times now.
BeforeItWasCool
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115- Ah it's fine! The intelligent have picked up on that fact, the others still bleat on that I'm deceitful. I'm posting on the Internet, I always expect mixed reviews, plus the wording was terrible. It's only to be expected I suppose!
skyeyez9
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If you want kids and he doesn't, it would be best to break it off and find a man who wants to have kids. My next door neighbor was living with her bf for 10 yrs before she realized he never intended on marrying her or have kids and she wanted both. He just liked the home cooked meals, living in her house and regular sex. Don't waste your time if you and your fiancé are on different terms when it comes to wanting kids.
bassmanhec
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Im engaged, yes I do want kids. However, I don't want kids right now. I'd prefer to wait until after marriage. Your point of saying the guy doesn't want kids is irrelevant considering you don't actually know his side of the story. Guys are not always to blame, women can be just as inconsiderate. Look at the OP not talking about wanting a baby first. It's a trap.
You should both agree as a couple before you have a baby. You guys should really talk it over first, that sounds just kind of messed up to me
Why not be married before you start popping out offspring?
blackvyper
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I'm overjoyed for him!
xxjohippiexx
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Comment moderated for rule-breaking.
Show it anywayGROSS!!!!!! She's not messed up or desperate!!!!!
You're ready, he's not. Maybe planning a big event (such as bringing in a new life) should be planned by the "both" of you.
Maybe he thought negative meant you were having a baby...
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If he's your fiancé for four years, that means he's still not ready to commit. A baby would probably force him to marry you, something he's been avoiding for years.
^Nailed it. From the wording of the FML, it seems like OP wants to get pregnant without her fiancee's consent. And if that's true, what the hell is wrong with you OP?! Just because you have a "strong relationship" doesn't mean he wants kids. Furthermore, if he doesn't want kids and you do, do NOT get married to him. Those irreconcilable differences.