@74 How is it ever nice to tell someone they need to lose weight? That's incredibly rude, especially if you're talking to someone who's admitted having body image issues.

If someone actually is overweight, then it's not really rude to tell them they should lose weight. You aren't saying it to be mean, you're saying it because you're concerned about their health.

193 - You realize you're talking to a society who believes a size 4 is fat, right?

@193 And you think overweight people don't know they're overweight? They're overweight, not stupid; there's no need to spell it out for them. (And being overweight doesn't necessarily mean that you're not healthy, anyway.)

It's not like he directly said "you're fat and need to lose weight." She brought the issue up. If she truly thought she was overweight, did she expect him to lie and tell her she wasn't overweight? He was being kind in implying that she was exaggerating about how overweight she was, if she is overweight. What would be the correct, polite response?

224: The polite response would be to comfort his girlfriend, not insult her. I'm not saying he had to lie and call her thin if she wasn't, but it would've been way more considerate to reassure her that she didn't need to be self-conscious. Even something like "I wouldn't mind if you lost weight, but you shouldn't hate yourself because of it" would've been an improvement.

I still think his response wasn't bad because he wasn't saying it rudely. She's definately overreacting because even if he does say that, both responses still boil down to that he doesn't think she was that overweight.

194 -- you say the most amazing things. if society had a face, i would punch it. repeatedly. |the kid|

yea...about that. it's not always easy. you have a fast metabolism and some people suffer from a slow metabolism. i know my sister went to the gym with me for like 6 months 4-5 times a week and no matter what the weight wouldn't come off. so if you don't want to be judged, don't be so quick to judge others.

From one naturally thin person to another: STFU. What you're doing is no different than what OP did-- bitching about your body. OP (and most commenters) can't relate to you and I, because they have no idea what it's like to want to gain weight when it's so difficult. But know what? You can't relate to them and their weight struggles either, so neither side knows which has it worse. Both have advantages and drawbacks. Comparing is pointless. Accept what genetics gave you, work with it, do everything you can do to stay HEALTHY, and **** society's impossible and contradictory notions of beauty. Period.