Open-marriage is just a way of saying that neither of you can be faithful/responsible so that you can avoid consequences.

@ 64 i respectfully disagree. there are different ways of being faithful and for some the whole monogamy thing just doesnt cut it. if both people want to be in an open relationship or marriage then they are still faithful to the rules they set just like any other relationship.

How is it HER fault that HE chose to cheat on HIS wife? He is married, and he is responsible for honouring that marriage. Not she.

Because she's an active participant in the deception. She shares equal responsibility with the husband.

Nobody forced the guy to cheat on his wife, but that doesn't make it any less her fault that she's stuck in this situation. She knowingly dated and slept with (and continues to do so) a married man. SHE made that decision all by herself. The guy is a total douchebag too, but the OP has done this to herself by choosing to be in that sort of relationship

YES! He's in a relationship, he's cheating. She's not.

yeah, except OP is delusional enough to refer to the man as her "boyfriend." if she acknowledged that she is the 'other' woman and didn't think this situation means SHE deserves all the sympathy, I'd feel bad for her. she sounds like a selfish B.

First of all, he's NOT her significant other. He's a cheating dirtbag and she's his accomplice. Secondly, if she found out post-pregnancy, she should have broken the relationship and told the wife. She's actively taking part in the deception, and shares equal responsibility with the husband.

She helped facilitate the cheating. She's hardly innocent.

Are you ******* kidding me? Not only is she a tramp of the worst kind for sleeping with a married man, they're both goddamn morons to boot for not using at least two kinds of protection. The only people worthy of sympathy in this FML are the cheating bastard's wife and that dumbass duo's unborn child.

I agree with you about everything. But I feel sorry for that baby.

The only way I would feel bad for Op is if the FML was "Today, I found out my boyfriend is actually married. I'm pregnant too." I don't care if she is pregnant with his child, she should be better than this and leave his ass, tell the wife, and move on with her life. Mistakes happen, but it sounds like she knew he was with someone and decided to keep both the baby and the cheater in her life.

#73, is that sarcastic? If not, your name seems pretty inappropriate for your (conservative) state of mind.

#73 I'm sure you only have sex simply for procreational purposes, right? Can you see the rest of us normal people from your saintly pedestal, Mrs. Palin?

#42, the responsibility lies with both parties, if she knew he was married. Stop calling posters sexist, when YOU are probably the one who is sexist, blaming only the man. Let me guess, you're female, right? Hypocrite.

No, the responsibility lies with the one who has taken the wedding vows.

No, the responsibility lies with anyone who helped in the deception. That would be both of them.

How is it sexist to expect the mistress to take full responsibility for her wide open legs, just like the man should take responsibility for his penis? That sounds like the opposite of sexism to me; both parties being held equally responsible for their reprehensible actions.

#70, thank you. At least you and most of the posters on this one seem to understand that.

You can only ever say that it is solely the responsibility of the married person if the mistress had no idea they were married. I have a feeling that maybe you and some of the other die-hard "NO! It's HIS fault NOT her's!" might just be saying so because you've been an accomplice to cheating and are therefore determined to defend it. If not, I really don't understand your backwards thinking. It's disgusting and wrong and people who do it deserve zero sympathy when they wind up unhappy. She is willingly breaking apart a marriage and now she's bringing a child into the whole mess. Some poor woman out there is going to find out her husband is sleeping around with someone who, not only knew he was married, but pities herself because he hasn't left his wife. You're an accomplice to murder and considered equally guilty if you did nothing but stand watch and never even touched the victim, so how is being a mistress not being an accomplice to cheating (and therefore guilty)? I'm sure you would feel differently if you found out that your partner had a regular on the side.

Yes it is OPs responsibility to not romantically pursue married men, thus honoring their marriage. Cheating doesn't happen in a vacuum, it takes two [or more] to make that happen. It is obvious OP specifically goes after married men just by looking at her user name Cereal_Mistress. OP is a classic example of a "home wrecker" and there is not one sexist thing about calling her out on it. Plenty are also bagging on the piece of shit man who impregnated OP and is cheating on his wife.