Maybe she's just extremely nervous about the prospect of sex. Like someone else pointed out, you've both waited, and it hasn't been too much of an issue. But suddenly, there's an ENORMOUS amount of pressure on her to have sex on THIS NIGHT, to be good at it, enjoy it, make you happy and satisfied, and whatnot. That can be an enormous weight on someone, especially if it's not really been approached prior to your wedding night. Just talk to her. See why she didn't want to do it. Figure out if she's just afraid, it's a trust issue, or whatever. If the two of you love and trust each other enough to communicate openly and honestly with one another, you'll be just fine. Best of luck.

She was probably scared and nervous. It's a scary thing for a girl on her first time, if she's not a ****! But I think it is great that you both decided to wait, if that's true. Sooo many people have no morals these days, and don't wait. I'm always relieved to see that good people still do exist! Congratulations on your marriage, and may it be an ever-lasting, truthful, happy relationship. (I agree with #211. And #209... it's spelled 'Amish.')

Jeez, the numbers are messed up on here! I agree with #210. #208, it's spelled 'Amish.'

YOU LOSE for being a religious retard LOL

I don't think people should judge others who wait till marriage. That's just as bad as those who condemn people who DON'T wait till marriage. Ultimately, it boils down to personal choice. If both sides are fine with it then it's fine. However the response of the wife does seem extreme, especially if she's done other things (e.g. making out) with her husband before. I do suspect the possibility of abuse -- but it could be just that she feels pressured to have sex that night and is not in the mood/exhausted from all the wedding preparations -- or also that she's been taught that sex is a duty she owes to her husband and she has to go along with it regardless of whether she enjoys it or not if he wants it (I do know people who teach their kids this!). She used the word "make" which seems to imply that she doesn't consider it as anything remotely enjoyable, but rather more of a duty, which is sad. She seems to have issues: well it seems like she hasn't discussed them before but the poster has to have that discussion with her now.

She's frightened. Sex for the first time is painful and probably not satisfying. Just be patient.

There is nothing wrong with her she is just scared geash just leave the poor woman alone for pete sakes and I'm glad that you guys waited till marriage that is what it is suppose to be like

Maybe she was afraid of the pain?

Here is my advice, and it is absolutely the best. Talk to her. And if that does not work, talk to her mother. Give it one month. If things are not all better, leave, leave, leave, leave, leave, leave. Sex is the best thing in life, it is God's give to life, and you do not want to do without.

Yeah, my wife and I made that decision too, for religious reasons, and we don't regret it at all. However, there are some things very, very, very important to remember, and our like-minded friends agree with us on this: 1. Many religious people and organizations misinterpret religious traditions on sex to indicate that sex is dirty, bad, and sinful. This is clearly not the case, at least in Christianity. Heck, the Bible has has a whole friggen book that is essentially an erotic love letter. Somehow, some people screwed up the idea of sex being a wonderful act between two people who have committed to and love each other and made it something to be ashamed of. This couldn't be further from the truth, and if you don't realize that, problems like this happen. 2. As noble an idea as absolute purity is, going from absolutely nothing to sex in one fell swoop simple does not work. This ties in with the above point. You can't simply go from living a life thinking sex is impure to embracing it just because you have a ring on your finger. There has to be some acknowledgment that it will happen, that it is good, and it should be looked forward to. So I have nothing against waiting for marriage to have sex. It worked out perfectly for me and my wife. However, we both had a healthy view on sex, perceived it as something God-given and wonderful, and ramped up to it. Too late for this advice now for the OP, but for anyone else in the same boat going the same place, there you are.