maybe op's dad sees how unwonderful op is

ok wow. worst. advice. ever. also you don't need to say if you're a guy or girl no one cares, although you're probably a guy since you felt the need to say if your a guy or girl and the fact that you have blue around your (lack of) profile picture

lying is never a good idea cause when she does find out and she likely will it will be 1000 times worse than it would if he was straight forward about what he did

It's funny how you can say that over the Internet but I guarantee that if we were face to face you wouldn't say a damn thing. It's my experience, AS A GIRL, that when cheated on I preferred to not be told rather than be told. Because then I had the good times without second guessing every damn second. Maybe you should be attacking the op rather than me, for my opinion. Just suck it up.

That's your opinion, because quite frankly I feel the opposite. I was in a relationship, and we split up for a few weeks. It was only until we were thinking about getting back together that he admitted he'd cheated during our relationship, and I felt like everything we had together was a lie. I certainly dont want my whole relationship to be built upon a lie like that. As someone whose been cheated on and had it kept from me, I can say it was 1000x worse hearing about it afterwards as I was denied my right to deal with the situation as it happened. I was given no choice about being with a guy who I thought was faithful. So in my opinion, your advice is very bad advice. But if you'd rather live a relationship that's a lie, fair enough that's your right. Ignorance is bliss.

Look, we all chose what hurts us and what we are strong enough to move on from. I have been cheated on and told about, I have also not been told about it until I chooses to move on from the relationship. In my personal experience, I did much better when the relationship I was in, and not the one he was in, I was a much happier person.

I think it's horrible not to be told about it and find out later. For someone like me, that's ensuring insecurity and doubt; has he been doing it the whole time? was I not good enough? etc. And I believe it's better to know sooner rather than later. No relationship worth having has a foundation of lies.

You know what bothers me the most about 'not telling her'? That she probably once will have the same cheat-opportunity as him and - considering she's a wonderful lady - will stay faithful. Perhaps I'm thinking to much about my own personality here, but if my fiancé thinks he can have sex with someone else, then he should be aware that I gain the same right. Which means the relationship would end or evolve into an open one.

Simply put. STFU. Worst advice. "Yeah LIE about CHEATING to a woman you are going to make a life long commitment to." Sigh. You really need to sort out your priorities

1 nobody gives a flying **** about your gender. 2 that is horrible advice "keep it from her" wtf?! what happened to being honest in a relationship?

Look, I stated my opinion. I really don't give a shit what you have to say about it. You don't know a single thing about her, or much about him, OR anything about me. Thanks for proving, once again, every one on the Internet suddenly gains balls. No matter what YOU think I am going to stand by my opinion. Oh, and I give a shit about my gender. So do quite a bit of other people, so **** off! :) thanks.

I honestly don't give a crap what you have to say. It's not your life, yet you act like the world is ending because I simply stated my opinion. Maybe you need a reality check. Oh, and I, along with MANY other people care about my gender. So maybe you don't, but I don't give to Fs.

24, although you've been getting shit here, I do agree with you, in the case it really is a one time incident. But of course, once the dude chooses to not tell, he can't ever tell a single person. Not now, not later, not at the possible end of the relationship, not even on his death bed. If he can't live without lightening his conscience at some point, he should just come clean now.

I agree too. If it was a one time thing I'd rather not know. There are some things you can never recover from. that's one of the big ones. Now if he continues to cheat that would be different. Every one is allowed one **** up in life. But him telling her only makes him feel better and destroys her. He should live with the guilt.

An accident? I don't think the OP accidentally had sex with a woman who wasn't his fiance but I guess it's possible. I mean maybe the OP is a nudist. Perhaps he was relaxing on the beach people just laying about. OP went back to his car to get some sunscreen, and while he was walking along he fell (due to his inebriated state) and landed right inside a female beach-goer.

Did he just happen to fall and end up inside the one night stands pants?