#30: He was probably using "it's a boy" in the general way that it's used for celebrations and stuff. Haven't you ever seen a banner saying "It's a boy!" I love how you say YDI strictly for that. ******* dumbass. I highly doubt he considers his child an "it."

Lol...I agree with #46, plus "He's a boy" would be kind of redundant.

"It" is the generally accepted term in that situation. Before a child is born/assigned a gender at an ultrasound, they are an androgynous "it." So using the phrase "it's a boy" clears up the fact that what once was an unknown gender or "it" now has an assigned gender of male. Get it?

ASSIGNED a gender at ultrasound? They don't assign a gender, they tell you the gender based on if they see a penis or a ******! And yes, "It's a ____" is a perfectly acceptable way of telling someone the baby's sex.

To my knowledge "assigned" is the correct term for it. *shrugs* Words are words and the meaning was still behind it.

that's kinda what people say. like on the banners.."It's a boy!"..sounds better than he's a boy! because if it were said like that they would sound stupid because obviously its a boy

Maybe he was multitasking? It's not too hard to have more than one web page open... Anyway, I too wonder how he knows it's his. Maybe she messaged him...

You know, the beginning statement of "Today" is not voluntary, it's preassigned. Think before you insult

You are a moron and so is the OP. NO ONE knows if he is the father, perhaps not even the mother. Your imagination is in spasms. Perhaps she dumped him. The baby is the victim... He for sure had nothing to do with this mess.

ya he "had nothing to do with this mess" except, you know, sticking his pecker in some girl likely without protection. But really, the girl who went through 9 months of pregnancy alone, labour and birth without him and the fear of raising a child alone as well is a high likelyhood of a life of poverty, shes fine. Its really the op thats the victim for finding out via fb.

Did you read the comment at all? FarSide was referring to the baby being the victim.

wtf it could have been a one nite stand or she could have gotten pregnant and no thought he was fatger material and left him or something its not his fault the mom didnt tell him!

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Virginia would quickly become a nature preserve if that rule applied

Get over it. Do you think about every single FML like this? Stop being so nosey.

It's not being nosey if people are posting their messed up lives

Is it really that hard to think?

haha yeah it's not nosey if they're inviting us into their problems by posting on a popular worldwide website. I just think if FML's are to be posted they should be clear and to the point. This ones a little fuzzy is all and hard to decide whether it's a FYL or YDI. The first sentence doesn't even make sense. "Today, I found out I HAD my first born child." as if the OP gave birth to it but just found out... should be something like "Today, I found out that my first child was born." much more clear ;) & lol at Zombie, yes sometimes with the amount of Mary Jane I smoke it can be hard to think ;D

If they wanted to make it clearer, they would have. If they didn`t, they wouldn`t have. They said everything they wanted to tell you. So yes, you are being nosey.