By Anonymous - 10/01/2012 17:43 - India

Today, I received a letter from the state saying my 14-year-old daughter is now legally recognized as a male. I have no idea what happened. FML
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jonnygw 4

dad, there's something i have to tell you...

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SkoomaKi 27

I think it's time for a talk with your " daughter".

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KiddNYC1O 20

Seems legit. No, not really. Very strange. Keep us updated, op...

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attaboy368 20

Don't most dad's want a boy anyway? Could this have been a computer mix up of some sort? My dog got a credit card application in the mail a few months ago and my husband gets AARP mail all the time he has 35 yrs til he can be considered for that...

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Lichinamo 33

You're 50 when you're considered for AARP. 50-35=15. Are you telling us you're married to a 15 year old?

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queenbcorleone 7

Could it be possible that he (the 14 year old) lives in a single parent household (possibly due to the parents divorcing), and the custodial parent gave permission for the transgender change? I fully support LGBTQ rights and pro-equality, but I do apologize and admit that I don't know much about the particulars of the legal aspects involving transgender changes. When I read this FML, I got the impression that maybe it was the absent parent (if my theory is correct) that received the letter. At any rate, I hope that if all of this turns out to be legit, the parent/s embrace and give their love unconditionally and immense support to their son. With bullying and bullycide as unfortunately prevalent as it is, that young man is sure going to need it. Erase the hate. One love

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BeautyMonster 17

Finally, a comment that has common sense.

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SwtCherryPie 26

Ive heard the term LGBT before but what does the Q mean?

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queenbcorleone 7

Hopefully this isn't a double posting. I'm not seeing my comment yet. Anyway. @70 - Thank you. I was afraid I'd annoy all the regular commenters by being too lengthy. @73 - I am just curious as to your opinion (and I'm most definitely not attacking your beliefs), but why call him a her? If my theory is correct, then the 14 year old could very possibly be male instead of female. In my opinion, it's just a matter of courtesy and respect to address/label him as who he is. Anything else would just reinforce negativity and make him feel even more like he didn't belong. @75 - The Q stands for questioning and kind of throws in pansexuality and asexuality as well. I've also known it to be defined as queer for the same reasoning. LGBTQ Nation on Facebook is a great page to 'like' if you support equality. =)

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Lichinamo 33

If the aforesaid child wishes to be called him/her a girl, they will be referred to as a she, if boy, they will be called a he.

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Shrike 23

**** off with that ignorant shit, #73.

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queenbcorleone 7

That was supposed to say @77, not @75. My apologies.

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AmbrosiaWriter 17

#73 - The state legally recognizes the child as male, therefore you should be calling the child a boy/he/him.

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MoogleSam 8

73 isn't being ignorant but simply saying that people should stop calling her a HE until we have actual evidence that she has either had a sex change or is actually a transgender because everyone seems to instantly be calling her a 'he' and a 'son' with no evidence to suggest that she really is a transgender.

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j_cat187 19

Wonder if there's as many haters in India?

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AmbrosiaWriter 17

#106 - Incorrect. What we KNOW is that the state LEGALLY recognizes the daughter as male now, therefore "she" is legally referred to as he. If it was a mix up, then he'll have to go through the paperwork to be recognized as a "she" again. Since we do not know the child personally and cannot ask what the child would like to be referred to as, we should be following the legal recognition.

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clutz123 5

wow, someone needs to pay more attention to their daughter and more time with her.

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pulore 3

Is she mannish??~ no offense

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emogirl88 2

She/he could be a FTM and nothing is wrong with that.

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caysters 12

To be legally recognized as a man, they wouldn't have had to undergo a sex change yet. If I decided that i felt wrong in my body, I would want to be recognized for how I felt inside, even of my outside did not yet match. Doesn't have to be a mixup with identity. And I don't say fyl... I say f his life that his parents would think this is horrible instead of accepting him for who he is, inside and out.

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AmbrosiaWriter 17

I read it as more of a FML for the parent because he doesn't UNDERSTAND what happened, not because now his daughter is considered male. I took to mean he had no hints to it before. The now son apparently didn't talk to him about it, and tried to hide that though he had female parts he felt like he was a man, which is rather common for transgenders as they are scared of being judged. I'm sure the dad - or mom - just wants to understand what's going on. Transgenders are still at that awkward stage of society where people don't really think of them unless they (the people) have friends/know someone who is one. Then again, we don't really know, but I wouldn't pass judgement on the parent because he admitted to not understanding what happened, and we don't have enough information to tell if the FML is because they don't understand or because of the gender swap.

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