I'm really hoping this is just the normal Perdix sarcasm.

Sometimes, you never know.

"take one for the team" that's classic. That really had me laughing out loud

If perdix is being sarcastic here, I may reconsider laughing as often as I do to their usually hilarious comments.

She could've asked him any time, he only turned it down once and she had turned it down loads. Anyway she said she hadn't needed it for months its not her that would find it hard it's her husband.

I know poor husband but her how can she not need sex!!!! She's crazy lol

Ever heard of asexuality, asshole?

108 - I'm looking into being a biology major actually, also. It is frustrating to see the biological term "asexuality" gain other meanings, but the meaning of "lacking interest in or desire for sex" has also made it in to the best dictionaries. We'll probably have to accept that at some point or another. 106 - How in the world does heyred's comment make her an asshole? She's suggesting help for OP and her husband. Asexuality isn't *necessarily* a good thing. Considering OP was feeling frisky and apparently wanted to act on her sexual desires despite her partner's resistance, it very much sounds like she would prefer not to have a lifestyle of asexuality. Therefore, if she is experiencing some sort of asexuality, shouldn't OP seek help all the more? Your own comment supports heyred's comment. Why are you calling her names?

Because people in general are idiots, and they take any opportunity to call others names like "asshole" and "idiot". Hey, wait a second...

Holy shit, you cannot get any more ignorant. Asexuality has two meanings. You've expressed knowledge in the first but total erasure in the second. People who are asexual don't face sexual attraction to any gender, and I can assure you these people actually exist. Please do your research before you continue to spread such animosity around, it's really gross. (FTR, I'm not saying the FML poster is asexual - she's clearly not - but saying something is "wrong" with people who don't face sexual attraction is beyond ignorant.)

Further - asexuality is never not a good thing, unless there is a medical ailment behind it (which usually causes low libido, not an entire sexual orientation). You biology majors can be so ridiculous and pompous about your terminology, I swear. Listen - asexuality now has two meanings, whether you like it or not. Get the hell over it already. The original commenter is an asshole for suggesting something is wrong with her for not desiring sex for a long period of time, thereby ignoring asexuality and people who simply have a low natural libido. Granted, there COULD be a medical reason behind it, but saying that not wanting sex in itself isn't normal is bullshit.

Forget the definition of asexual. Clearly they had been having sex before or this wouldn't be a problem so neither of them are asexual in any definition of the term... The only thing I got out of this thread is that daltonromanowski is probably someone who classifies themself as an asexual person and thought this would be a great moment to be all self righteous and defensive. But maybe that's just me.

To put it frankly, I'm a huge ****. I don't get why you seem to think ONLY asexual people can be offended by their erasure in society.

You'll find out when you're older.

Lol. Her profile says she's 32. Forever alone?

Meant to reply to 1st comment my bad

You're not reading the FML properly. The lady clearly stated it was the first time she's felt frisky in months, meaning her excuses weren't mind games - she legitimately did not want to have sex. What's wrong with not feeling it? Nobody should be forced to put out because their partner is horny, so I don't blame the husband here for that. I'm just saying, he's treating her to the cold shoulder because she has a low libido, and that's immature. What are you expecting her to do, spread her legs and deal with it? It's her body. She's not an object. She's a person who should have full control over whether or not there's a goddamned dick inside of her. So yeah, there's a difference between what the husband is doing and what she is doing. She's telling him she doesn't want to have sex when she doesn't want to have sex. Her husband is saying he doesn't want to have sex because he's butthurt over her having control over her own body, basically. Had the secret read that he simply wasn't in the mood then yeah, big deal. But he's specifically trying to get back at her for this, which is why I think he's being childish.

Whether it was low libido or just being a bitch cuz he doesn't pick up his laundry. If you turn down your spouse for months at a time, you're lucky that a smartass cold shoulder is all you get. She's lucky he isn't having an affair (which he probably is since he can manage to turn her down in this way) he's either getting some on the side or he is in fact a total boss.

116- I see where you are coming from. On the other hand, he is most likely feeling rejected due to his wife not wanting anything to do with him sexually, for months. I know if I were the husband, I'd feel terrible about myself. Feeling rejected is so hurtful, even though that probably wasn't the wife's intentions. I agree that he's acting childish, but maybe he's sincerely hurt, and wants to give her a taste of her own medicine. It doesn't make it right, but it's a possibility of why he's acting this way.

You fail miserably at common sense. Yes people have a right to do what they want with their body, but then so does the other person in the relationship. And if they don't want to have sex because they want to spite the other person then they have every ******* right to do so. You can't seriously come on here expecting anyone to support such a ridiculous argument do you? She has the right to do as she pleases, but suddenly because she wants it he has to drop everything and just saddle up? Wow...

HAH!!

you're silly :p

155 - no shit, dumbass. I'm not calling the husband out for not wanting sex, I'm calling him out for being a petty manchild. ONCE AGAIN, since you clearly lack reading comprehension - had he just said he wasn't in the mood, fine, great. Sucks for OP, kind of funny actually. Totally karma. But the second he made it about "payback," he turned it into a childish game that's about internally feeling his wife should put out whenever he wants, and that's disgusting.

The wife was being far worse than the husband. Yes deliberately saying how does it feel and whatnot is a bit childish, but he does have the right to stand up for himself and decide that if she refuses to satisfy him other than the extremely rare cases where it's her idea. If she had been saying no for months and then one rare time wanted to herself and he just jumped on the chance, then he would be a pushover. He was standing up for himself. Yeah he could have just flat out said that he's not going to just jump on the chance when she never says yes to him, but beyond a slight pettiness he was in the right. And actually yes a married person is obligated to have sex. Not in the sense that they're supposed to jump on their spouse like a sex slave every moment he or she is in the mood, but if a married person isn't willing to satisfy their partner fairly frequently then there is a problem. Marriage is about making each other happy. You both have to make sacrifices, but the husband shouldn't be expected to just ignore his needs for months straight just because his wife doesn't feel like it and then jump on her without question as soon as she is.

I'm sorry but your logic is nonsensical. Everyone can see it, except you.

Excuse me? Forcing an obligation of sex on someone is rape. Check your shit at the door.

You're a moron: He didn't FORCE anything. All relationships are about both members. You can't just never have sex with you're spouse because then you are only in it for yourself rather than giving a compromise. It would be unfair to expect her to give him sex every damn time but if she wants to be a twat and withhold from him for months then she's selfish. Then you turn around and criticize the husband because he withholds sex for once to prove a point.