By Anonymous - 24/07/2015 17:59 - Northern Mariana Islands - Saipan

Today, I was telling 3 classmates on Whatsapp about my depression. One of them told me to "nut up n grow a pear." Two hours after we mocked him for being an illiterate jackass, one of us has had our car tires knifed and another's house has been egged. I'm terrified of what will happen to me. FML
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Morning_fml 22

Depression's a serious issue, man, but if you really feel like it, file a police report using your two witnesses of classmates. Hope you get the help you need.

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rieebee 23

Pears are yummy, maybe he was offended you didn't want to grow some for him.

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GhostFox 33

The police need to be alerted- both your classmates should report as well. If he's old enough to have the resources to commit the acts, he's old enough to deal with the legal repercussions. As to depression- there always people who dismiss 'invisible' Illnesses as being a flaw in the person- keep in mind they are wrong, and that they don't know your experiences with said illness.

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MandieL 27

I am very much prepared for down votes based on popular opinion, but this needs to be said as well. I get that this guy is extremely rude and ignorant regarding his views on depression, and that he is a psycho because he is vandalizing property because you guys made fun of him, but why did you guys make fun of him? Isn't that bullying as well? Which could help lead to depression? So because he was an intolerant douche about your depression, you decide to gang up on him because of a spelling mistake (and possibly an auto correct spelling mistake at that)? It sucks that you are depressed OP, and I hope you get the help and support you need, but it seems obvious that your classmate is suffering from something too, and making fun of people is wrong, especially as a gang effort. (Not excusing the classmate vandalizing btw, this should be reported to police)

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tarlax 11

Wow. Nice victim blaming...

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MandieL 27

I'm not blaming OP for what the classmate did though, as I said, the classmate should be reported. I am saying that all parties involved here should be ashamed of their actions in this situation. I know people who suffer from depression and I have too so I understand, but why does that give me the right to gang up on someone to make fun of them over a spelling error? And I will reiterate as well that the classmates actions were wrong as well and I am not in any way saying that what he did was justifiable.

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tarlax 11

Damn, just damn. That right there is what we call "insane troll logic"... Fair enough if you're into passiveness and total pacifism, but you're crazy if you actually think fighting back against a total asshole bully is somehow bad or inherently bad. Damn you're nutty.

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MandieL 27

How is making fun of someone fighting back? It is juvenile.

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Fairyjoshy 13

As far as I'm concerned, if you're being a dick, you pretty much deserve others being a dick towards you. Quite frankly the "payback" was tame compared to the original trespass. Mocking an asshole's bad spelling is not as bad as telling someone with depression to just "get over it". And yes, I do mean that.

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MandieL 27

And as far as I'm concerned, and where I come from, two wrongs don't make a right, an eye for an eye leaves the whole world blind, (etc., etc.) I never once said what the classmate did was, in any way shape or form, right. Depression should not be treated lightly and the classmate was rude and ignorant (hmm, where have I written that before?). The vandalism done by the classmate should be reported to the police because that was not right (déjà vu much?). The classmate obviously had some issues that need to be dealt with, as well has he needs some lessons in manners/tolerance/compassion. But how is hanging up on the classmate and making fun of him solving anything? Aren't we supposed to be teaching kids to stand up to bullies by ignoring them or taking the issue to someone who can deal with the issue? Not to provoke bullies and become bullies in the process? I agree that what they classmate said and did was way worse than what OP and the others did, but why does that make it okay?! That is what I am not understanding.

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hoosierholla 17

They were just teasing the kid for a spelling mistake because they all seemed to be friends. Friends usually tease each other. If the kid had gone "hey guys I have (insert learning disability here), I'm not the best at spelling" I highly doubt they would have continued to tease him.

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MandieL 27

No where in this fml does it say they are friends. OP uses the term classmates. OP also admitted to all 3 of them mocking this classmate for being an illiterate jackass. And if it were all done in good fun, then maybe the classmate who told OP to grow a pair was joking around too and said it sarcastically in good fun? I'm playing devils advocate here because none of the 4 classmates are innocent in this matter based on the information we have been given.

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leogachi 15

@55 I agree with everything you've said here. The classmate has some serious issues, and whether or not they were obvious before is irrelevant. Mocking people is bullying and it's not okay.

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MandieL 27

Thank you, I am happy someone understands what I am saying.

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chinaski7628 32

I totally agree with you, too, 65, all parties are wrong. I've dealt with anxiety and depression most of my life. When people make ignorant assumptions/statements about mental health issues, I find trying to educate them works better than mocking them-- which really does nothing for the cause of trying to destigmatize mental health issues. Just as it's unacceptable for the classmate to mock OP's depression, it's not ok to mock others for their literacy skills. The classmate could very well have a learning disability-- which could be feeding into the classmate's own depression or self-esteem issues. See how mocking and bullying just perpetuates a cruel cycle? You never know where other people are coming from (I'm assuming OP doesn't know the classmate well). People carry lots of baggage that can affect them-- it's usually better to educate or find common ground than to insult and mock people for their shortcomings (which both OP and his classmate did). That said, the classmate sounds unstable and they should definitely report him to the police-- he's definitely crossed a line.

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echarlotte 19

Well pears and nuts are a fabulous combination

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worldclassrager 39

Maybe seeing a psychologist will be a better idea...

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laden_swallow09 34

Your classmates had their tires slashed and house egged, but that illiterate jackass is still an illiterate jackass with a criminal record. Not only a criminal record, but a record of petty vandalism, proof that he is also a mentally immature, illiterate jackass. I'd say you came out on top, no matter what he tries to do to you. Though please keep us posted on what happens!

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allytay1222 10

Sure he an asshole for not taking depression seriously, but you decided be an asshole also by making fun of him. Maybe time you should be the bigger person and just ignore him.

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DragonFire13 2

Well, now you go to the police. Simple as that.

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singafairytale 11

Depression is a serious issue and he had no right to respond the way he did. Buuuuut, YDI for mocking him. Just as he doesn't understand your depression, you don't know what he goes through. Maybe he is slightly illiterate or dyslexic. And you mocked him as well.

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DoomedGemini 37

People claiming him to be dyslexic: last time I checked, the letters or numbers were out of order, not replaced to make a different word. Pair =/= pear

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CTeden 7

I feel very conflicted with this FML. He shouldn't have said that about your depression, but you don't have the right to mock someone else for their own personal issues. Two wrongs don't make a right. I agree, your life sucks but you deserved it.

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