The person could have been more tactful in the way that they said it but they work in the store they see women trying on dresses everyday and they know what they have in stock. If they say there is nothing in the store that is going to fit OP then they are probably correct. I wandered into a store to look for clothes and was told to leave because all the clothes would be too big for me, did I take offence? No, the people who work at the store know their stock and if they have the right size in, if the dresses only go up to 10 and the person takes a 16 then it makes sense to tell them they won't find anything there.

#58 there's a difference between being told you're too small and being told you're too big to shop somewhere. God I've seen so much ignorance on this post.

No there isn't. In both cases it is being told the clothing in stock will not fit your particular body size. If the clothes won't fit the clothes won't fit there is no need to get bent out of shape you just need to find a store that caters to your size. You can't force stores to carry clothing in a large variety of sizes on the off chance that someone needing that exact size if going to walk in. You carry the most common sizes and a few of sizes outside of that and special order the rest as needed.

You people realize these stores probably sell things OTHER than wedding gowns? Bride's maids dresses, veils, shoes... The employee should be shit canned for telling OP to leave. who knows how much op was willing to spend.

OP :( This makes me think of that movie Pretty Woman where those shop girls were really snotty to the main character until they found out about the money she was about to spend. Anyhow, you deserve a lovely wedding dress and this day is supposed to be all about you. It really won't matter if you're an XXS or an XXL because it'll be all about the memories. Of course that shop lady is a horrid memory to have but I think you're stronger than you know and going back out there to find the perfect wedding dress will be worth it in the end to you. BTW, congrats on getting married :)

Sorry OP. Some people say it should be about the day entirely, but it's also about the dress and everything else and having an AMAZING day to celebrate, but you know what? Enjoy your day. Make memories. It doesn't always have to be about the details. :) I hope you have a good time.

Don't give up on finding a dress. There are plenty of places online and you can always get something custom made.

Actually they do have large size dresses, those women were just lazy. Defiantly find a better dress shop.

Don't let one horrid lady ruin your journey to getting married! You'll find the perfect dress for you.

Go to either larger brand name stores( can't think of any off my head) or try and order online. Be careful about online, of course, but I just know your dress is out there. You just need to shove the snobby dress saleswomen aside.

Please don't let some stupid and horrible women bring you down. You are getting married, an event to celebrate. You have a man that completely loves you and wants to spend the rest of his life with you. You deserve to have a beautiful gown. There will be a beautiful dress out there for you, that makes you feel like an absolutely gorgeous bride. Don't let the bitches bring you down!!

The more I read the more pissed off I get. Tell me these stores so I can go hit those girls. Ugh I'm so sorry OP. my heart is breaking just reading that. That's a terrible thing to go through. I really hope you do something about it. And DEFINITELY get a dress.If you want one, get one. You're the one who's having the wedding. You're the one who will have the pictures for the rest of your life, not them. So please DON'T let them walk all over you. Be strong and, cliche as it sounds, be proud of who you are.

For a second let's set aside whether or not they were right; regardless, they clearly do not know how to treat a customer. If they treat customers that way and get to keep their job, it's probably not a very good store. If it's not a very good store, they probably don't get paid very much, which makes them not care about how they treat customers, thus closing the vicious cycle. Try the Internet :) Have an awesome wedding and marriage -- you're gonna find your dress and your husband's gonna love it no matter where you get it!

Seen "say yes to the dress"? plenty of plus sized ladies in gorgeous dresses there. There is no way you can't find a dress in your size, the store sizes may run small but most dresses are ordered anyways. If no one there will give you the time of day (how do they know your wallet isn't plus size too? idiots), then go elsewhere. Find a style you love and order one offline and take it to a tailor (its easier to take in than let a seam out, so if in doubt order a size larger), the majority of women have to have it tailored anyways. You absolutely can find a gorgeous dress in your size and feel unbelievably beautiful at your wedding. Congratulations on the engagement and forget those bitter old hags.

Plenty of very large women, several Xs before the L sizes wear lovely white wedding dresses, ignore the bitches in that store!!! I bet places will have roughly your size on the racks to try on, large is hardly going to be enormous in any country! I hope you find a better store.

Wow, how horrid. Unfortunately, I have the suspicion that because these dresses cost so much the people who work at these stores feel like they don't have to even make an effort to be, at the very least, courteous. My advice is to not rush it. You'll find a place where the people running it aren't complete twonks. And you'll find your perfect dress and look stunning on your special day. I daresay your husband is a lucky guy and I'm sure he'll love you if you're wearing the full works or just at home in trackies. Congratulations, OP and the best of luck for the big day! :D

OP don't let these snotty bitches put you down, I'm a size L (I don't fit in an M, I can tell you) and I got married last year. My dress was beautiful and the ladies of the store worked very hard to get me the perfect dress. It was not easy because I am a plus size (which you're not) and I have a pretty large breast, so I couldn't go for the classic corset / nude shoulders style (I needed a bra). These ladies however wanted my business and were real professionals. If these idiot women cannot fit you (a size M!!!), they should not be in the bridal business or any clothe related business at all. Seriously, if you wanted to go for a dress, it's what you should do! I swear I wish I had been there with you because I remember how insecure I was about the dress too because how my body shape and I was getting desperate that I'd never find one. You just need to find the right store (look up for reviews online). I have a friend who booked an appointment to a bridal shop and had to wait 8 weeks for it. When she came, the lady told her: "the dresses are over there" and she walked away. My friend said nothing and left and got her dress somewhere else. When you're planning to spend a lot of money on something, the least you should get is decent service. Good luck and don't give up!

That's awful. It doesn't matter what size you are, if you wear clothes that suit you, you can look amazing. Good luck finding a dress and being a beautiful bride.

Things must be different up there :(. As a size 18 woman I walked into a store, tried on maybe 7 dresses at the proper size and found "the one." Maybe you can find a place to order online if they won't cater to your curves. So sorry your dealing with the frustration... Like everyone said you're getting t married, and no dress shop can take that away from you.

Find a dressmaker to make your dress-**** those anorexia provoking bridal shops.

Op do me a favor and get a dress... Don't let the rude selfless lives of other people ruin your special day, buy a dress enjoy life and remember we're all different in life but there are some who may look "beautiful" but envy your gentle and sweet heart...

I had a similar situation. Go to Davids Bridal if you have one near by or the equivalent. The have dresses for really thin to women who are a size 30 when it comes to weddings. They size you and help you all throughout. I went there for my sweet 15 party and got an amazing dress. Trust me! Give it a shot!

If any of my family members were in that situation, you can guess who wouldn't allowed back into that store. It's more or less a tradition in my family to bitch out stores if we are insulted to that degree

Sounds like you went to David's Bridal. don't let the ignorance of some ruin the best day of your life. At the end of the day, they aren't the people you have to please and obviously there is someone out there who loves you and knows that you are beautiful. Keep looking and don't give up. congrats on the wedding and good luck!

I'm so sorry OP! Weddings are stressful enough, and you definitely didn't deserve to be treated like this by anyone. I'm not trying to advertise- but if you have a David's Bridal by you it may be worth checking out. Since they're a big chain they tend to have a wider selection than fancy "high class" stores. I have a very awkward body shape, and found a beautiful dress there within 30 minutes, no problems. They also have the same dress in all sizes, and the sizes go up to atleast in the high 20s. Don't let one grumpy salesperson who you will probably never see again in your life ruin your wedding or put a damper on it. I hope everything goes well for you from here on out!

Don't give up, op! That store was filled with bitches. Large isn't even THAT big. It breaks me heart right here reading that. Have you never watched "Say Yes to the Dress"? Big brides are all over! Please do put up a pic when you find a gown! AND DON'T COMPROMISE FOR ANYTHING!

Friend of mine got married and she had a lovely dress and she is undeniably heavy. Very. If she can find a dress then I think your large t-shirt wearing body can, too. Don't give up just because you ran into some jerks. If the store is a chain store, complain. They shouldn't treat anyone like that and if you don't want to call for your sake, think of the next girl that goes in there. If they're not a chain, blast them on facebook or something. Beyond that, I suggest you go to a small shop. A small place probably can't do things as cheaply as a chain story, but if you have the fundage to hit a "fancy" shop, then a small business may be the ticket. They'll be able to take the time to order you in what you need if they don't have anything on hand, and they'll work with you. My friend used a small shop and everything went great. Good luck, OP. Don't let the jerks get you down

If you're between a medium and a large, it really baffles me that they wouldn't have a dress big enough for you. I'm sure there are other stores that have them in your size. I can't imagine how that store gets a lot of business if someone who wears a size M-L can't find something that fits. It's not like it's just models and cheerleaders that get married wearing wedding dresses...

two words, op: David's Bridal :)

God if I were better at sewing I would make you a damn wedding dress. **** that lady. NOBODY deserves to be made to feel bad about what size they are. Don't give up. Do some research and find somewhere that can work with you and find you something fabulous and then have a ******* fantastic wedding and don't ever give that miserable harpy another thought.

medium and large shirt size? thats not plus size. I wear XL and 0X shirts and I fit into wedding dresses just fine (im shopping for mine too). and they were white

Was this a chain shop because if so, I'd like to know what it is because I don't EVER want to give them my business for my upcoming wedding.

Please don't let one rude person stop you from having a lovely wedding dress. I am sure there are plenty of other shops that would be glad to help you find a perfectly beautiful dress.

OP don't let that miserable **** ruin your day!!! She's obviously a miserable person who has to project her misery on someone else. There are so many gorgeous dresses in every size that you will find one that will make your big day perfect! Don't not get a dress, please! There are dress consultants at other shops that will love to help you find your perfect dress.

Please dear god don't listen to them. Buying a wedding dress is part of the experience. So what if people are assholes? Why should you listen to them? This is a really bad analogy type thing, but you don't see those stores on TLC sending bigger girls away. They always help them. Continue to go shopping, and don't let anyone stop you because they need to put someone else down to make them feel better.

I don't understand this because large size tee shirt isn't even that big...

If your weight is hurting your self confidence don't you think that maybe you should do something about it?

I'm not a big girl, but I am very short (lol) and I had a horrible experience like this! I went into three different wedding dress shops to be told to get a size 12 (uk size). I'm a size 6 on top and was looking for an A line dress, so only has to fit the top half of me. I would correct them, only for them to look at me like I was lying and to tell me that all dresses are made bigger sizes so i'd need a 12 anyway. Also found out all dresses were made for 5ft 10 women and was told because I was so short I'd need any dress I bought to be taken up. After the third time of being told I was size 12, I asked the women why so many people keep saying I'm bigger than I am...she bluntly said it'd because they'd been looking at my hips the whole time. I have size 10-12 hips...i'm quite curvy, but very pear shaped and a little self conscious about my fat ass compared to my tiny top half. After that, I decided traditional wedding dress shops were too bitchy for me and got mine at a great price (and perfect size and length!) from a very lovely woman who sold sample sale dresses. Moral of the story - don't go to wedding dress shops as they are often bitchy no matter what your size. Go online, look for sample sales in your area and at second hand bridal sites ect. You want a dress, you get a dress and don't let the bastards grind you down! At the end of the day, the bitches who made those comments won't be affected by your decision, but they will have won if you let their words influence you. Win and get a gorgeous dress!

I'm just gonna take the other approach here and tell you, I have seen some HUGE women in wedding dresses. I am sure they have your size.

I was out and out told when shopping for my dress that anything over a size 6 is considered plus sized in wedding dresses. That's obnoxious and all it does is hurt people. OP, it doesn't matter what size you are you deserve to feel good and look good on your special day. You should definitely report those women for what they said to you and don't let them ruin what is supposed to be a special, happy moment. There are plenty out there who will treat you with much more respect and would know better than to be this ignorant.

David's bridal is actually an amazing store when it comes to sales people and sizing. At least where I live. When my now ex sister in law went to get a dress they were amazing and had all sizes from a xxs to 6x

Check out dressilyme.com. I'm plus size and just sent them pictures of the design I wanted and my measurements. They custom make your dress for about $200. Got it in 2 weeks, fit perfectly and received many many compliments on it!

Go to David's Bridal. I found my dress there and I wear large to extra large shirts. I am by no means tiny. But I found the perfect dress and it is gorgeous. (Plus it makes me feel like I am a size ten instead of a twenty)

That's complete and utter bullsh*t. Bridal shops can fit you to any dress. That employee was probably just jealous that a beautiful woman like you could get married and she couldn't. Get a dress girl, it's your wedding!

Seriously, it sounds like these people are snooty, and there are other more polite ways of saying they don't have your size. If you have confidence issues in this maybe working out is an option to look into. You can make it as fun as you want, I like to swim (at school. . . I miss the pool), soccer, or find an activity you enjoy. People think it's something to suffer through but reality is that it's whatever you enjoy doing that gets you active. I'm pretty sure you have heard this before, and I hope I am not being offensive myself, but don't worry, it's your big day to look forward to so be happy.

Congratulations on getting married. I'm sure you'll look gorgeous whatever you wear. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

They mentioned on Say yes to the dress how designers usually make wedding gowns for the average size woman unfortunately. David bridals should be good. I hope you find a wonderful dress.

That's not unprofessional at all most people who work at formal wear stores can tell your size by looking at you. And Jos. A Banks once told me they won't have my neck size, because I wear the smallest mens size, and told me I shouldn't waste my time. Did I take offense? No, I was happy I didn't waste my time.

She wouldn't have gotten my $900.

How is that rude? Should they try to fit her in dress which is too small?