By get a grip, son - 30/05/2014 20:37 - United States - Pooler

Today, my 15-year-old son got so enraged at a fly that kept harassing him, that he ended up slapping himself in the face as it flew by him. This caused him to fall out of his chair, at which point he broke down into a mess of tears, humiliating me in front of everyone. FML
I agree, your life sucks 46 173
You deserved it 10 880

Same thing different taste

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ImSteve 8

Fail. Everyone makes mistakes though.

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Teenagers go through a lot of emotional stress. If he is that unstable there is probably something very serious that is bothering him. Perhaps a bully?

Vesi 29

Lighten up Dude.. parents like this are the very reason so many young people commit or contemplate suicide. Find out *what* is actually wrong.. because overreaction like that are a HUGE red flag that something much deeper is going on. Parenting means you also need to be a sympathetic ear and listen to them, too. Not judge them.

Lighten up dude.. Kids shouldn't be letting it get to them. I should know because I am a teen myself. Its not like OP yelled at him for being a wuss. It is normal for a parent to feel humiliated after a fail like that. Parents are humans, they will judge.

Vesi 29

And you just confirmed why so many young men have so much difficulty with handling emotions. KIDS are human too, yes, even males. They need time to settle down with their raging hormones and other issues. just as you did when you got your mensus. And if you happen to be a male.. Then I can safely come to the conclusion you are a bully and likely one of the reasons that young man is having difficulties.

i agree with your first comment #118 but #55 has a point that parents are human with emotions and prejudices too. But i don't think #55 sounds anything like a bully - they are simply giving their opinion but not in a nasty way

Vesi 29

"for being a wuss" is what I was specifically referring to. Yes, parents judge but they chose to become parents. They have an obligation to their children. I am a parent myself and when my son had odd fits, I asked questions to find out what was really behind it. The young man in this FML wasn't being a wuss. He was finally breaking from other stressors and it's the father's job to find out what was actually happening; not come on here and complain that his son embarrassed him. He's his own person, with his own needs, wants and feelings. He is NOT a reflection or extension of his father. And calling anyone a wuss because they finally broke only makes matters WORSE for our young adults.

Vesi 29

Last thoughts though.. Dad needs to put aside his feelings of embarrassment and find out what was behind it. Was the son trying to study for a very important test given by a very strict teacher? Has the young man been bullied during or after school? Is he having concerns or issues about his sexuality? Dad needs to communicate.

you seem really nice :) I'm really glad there are people like you in the world and I agree with you on that - the Dad needs to find out what's behind it

I've been in this situation (as the son) it was not the fly that drove him to tears something worse is wrong and he is probably having a bad day try and talk to him

Flies are ******* annoying. I can see why he got so angry

I think it would be worse for you son... Poor boy

We'll help him it's obviously nothing but he cried that he made you embarrassed so help him and let him know that it's ok

I had no idea narcissism was introduced into the parental pool at 1876. That means the principles I based my research on were bogus. DAMN YOU INTERNET.

what do you mean humiliating you? what kind of parent are you?