Damn man that sucks :(

Unlucky bro, but at least it happened before you proposed. and i agree with number 18. 17 it sounds like you really need to get laid. CHILL. Number 35, 36 and 37 YOU ARE A RETARDS, and basically just reiterating what 17 said. It was retarded when 17 said it and somehow even more retarded coming from you lot. You completely missed the point, people do this out of respect for the family and not to objectify women. people take this way too seriously, smoke a spliff and chill.

Number 53- you should never believe what was written in the bible its the biggest work of fiction in history

Basically when I find the right girl to marry I'll speak to her dad about it, not so much asking for his permission but just letting him know out of respect. All the people who think its sexist need to pull their heads out of their arses and realise that traditions have evolved since those times. We are constantly changing and therefore some traditions change to meet our contemporary lifestyles, that is just one of the fascinating things about our society, and yet we still get neanderthals quoting pieces of history that are now irrelevant. If traditions don't change you get things like staying kosher for Jews (like don't mix dairy and meat) rules for food that applied thousands of years ago in the desert when they didn't have refrigeration yet it is still carried out today. WAKE UP! WOMEN HAVE EQUAL RIGHTS NOWADAYS WHEN IT COMES TO MARRIAGE THEY CAN SAY NO IF THEY WANT TO.

I agree with #81. Why are we debating about him asking her dad? That isn't the FML part about his life. It's the fact that she broke up with him for someone else when he was planning on proposing. I'm sorry, man :( I know you don't see it now, but it really does sound like this happened for good reason. One day you WILL find a girl who not only rocks your world, but you also rock hers! good luck :) Oh, and I think it is super sweet that you talked to her Dad.

Dang. That's really sad. I'm so sorry!

#87: That's my point. It's polite to let her family know. It shows you want to be with her, that you respect her and her family. Father is NOT asked for his princesses hand, but for blessing to ask HER so. Notice the difference - it's her choice. It's just gentlemen's way of doing things.

I am speaking as a female who would love for her boyfriend to speak to her parents before proposing. I understand that the history behind asking a father's permission is less than appealing, but so is the history behind a lot of things that are no longer seen as negative (for example, some theorize that April Fool's Day originated as a means of mocking those who did not acknowledge the new Greogorian calendar). No one is saying that the original reasons for asking a father's permission are justified; however, the tradition has changed... and if you're going to use the history of the origin as an argument, then I hope for your sake that you've never pulled a prank on April 1st. As #90 said, it is about asking for a father's (and mother's, perhaps, to be fair =]) blessing. It establishes a feeling of respect. In the end, it is the daughter's choice, and ONLY the daughter's choice. I know that not everyone feels the same way as me, but when I get married, I want my husband and my parents to acknowledge and love each other as family, not strangers. Asking for a father's blessing is a wonderful way of letting the father know that his precious daughter will be in good hands (right on, #75 =]). OP, I'm so sorry this happened. Take care of yourself.

I seriously don't see why asking a girl's father for permission to propose is considered "sweet" by some. I can understand how consulting the parents can be respectful to the family but specifically asking the father for permission to have his daughter is blatant objectificatoin of the woman. It reduces the daughter to a meer possession to be passed onto a new owner.

Even if this wasn't taken into consideration, asking the father first is essentially valuing his decision above hers -- if he had said no, would the OP have totally disregarded the woman's choice? Who are you marrying -- the family or the girl? Maybe she wouldn't have dumped him if he had asked the right person. Regardless of the reason she did so, you're a douche.