By ilovekids? - 12/12/2015 02:05 - United States - Commack

Today, while I was working at a supermarket, a kid started to cry in line because he couldn't get candy. Since we have free lollipops behind the desk, I gave him one. His mom complained to my manager and said I was grooming her child. FML
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WhoopteDo 26

While the mom overreacted, she may have had a reason for not giving him candy. Better safe than sorry and ask.

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Calingaladha 21

You are kind of encouraging brattiness when you do that. YDI

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Astrobomb 21

ydi there was a reason the parent wasn't giving the child the candy. I hate people like you.

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ShannonBonnanen 15

You kind of were. That wasn't your child to make that decision for and you should have respected the parents wishes and parenting. It could have also turned really badly if the child was diabetic and couldn't have the candy but it wasn't old enough yet to understand that candy is bad for them. You definitley over stepped bounderies.

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FUBAR_88 14

How are they supposed to know that a child may be diabetic. The parent was with this child, so they could have said no but why the **** would someone working in a supermarket assume that the checkout person would be trying to groom there child especially on front of other people in the store. OP wasn't out of line.

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FUBAR_88 14

I work in a supermarket on the checkouts too. We are seriously damned if we do and damned if we don't. I hope your manager didn't take the complaint seriously.

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ShannonBonnanen 15

Another little thing this time for readers. Grooming could also be used in this case to describe having OP help invite negative actions so that the child will start thinking alright if i throw a fit when mom says no then someone will give it to me. Basically nothing to do with pedophilies but more used with describing how the child starts to act and to reinforce negative habits. We all don't need to jump from 1 to 100 on that line. they could just not have thought of a better way to describe the situation.

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militarybrat 21

Ive only ever heard the term groomed associated with pedophiles. Ever. (Except haircuts but i doubt that is the case here)

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tashag93 17

I have never heard it associated with pedophiles, ever. I have only ever heard to in reference to "being groomed to a position" (being prepared or trained for)

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Madison6130 5

The mom was right, she told her child no but yet you went around her back and gave the child candy. She said no to her kid for a reason and it's not your position to question it

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ACCOUNTKILLER 18

Always best to ask the parent- on Halloween I had one mother tell her kids "Only take one," and she gave me a filthy look when I said "Oh there's plenty there, you can take as much as you want." I was trying to be nice and didn't realize I had just undermined her and she had probably instructed them to only take one for a reason.

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paedra 23

You don't give something to a kid without asking the parent. I've never even had someone be rude enough to give something to my dogs without asking me first...

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RageWolf16 31

Don't **** with a mother's decision. Whether she's right or not it's always gonna blow up on you.

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MisLabeled 13

I know I'm beating a dead horse at this point but it is always a good idea ask the parents first and ask in a way the kid is not aware of the treat if the parent says no. You never just give something to someone else's kid unless you are related. YDI

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harmtouch16 11

Sorry man but as a mom to 8, YDI. Not the grooming comment though...however when mom says "no candy" that means NO candy. They could have misbehave in the store or they could have an allergy etc. Many reasons mom may have said no besides not having extra money. next time discreetly ask mom first or just let it go.

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militarybrat 21

Then the mom could have taken the candy. Not complain to the boss that the employee was a pedophile. That stuff sticks around. If he gets fired and needs a recommendation? Pretty sure this boss would write "pedophile tendencies". There is never an excuse to ruin someones life unless they actually did what has been accused.

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SuperMew 22

Eight kids? I would imagine without tight grips on your children, chaos would erupt. I agree that Op should have asked, but the mother was in the wrong as well. Even more so. Giving a kid candy is one thing, but accusing someone of wanting to harm her child sexually because of a sucker is.. well so wrong.

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