Very true

It is very stressful on both parties, and very likely he's feeling overworked. That said however it doesn't give him grounds to be a total prick, when you're feeling over worked you don't tell a new mom to get a job and totally disregard her feelings. He should deal with his problems like an adult and help find a solution that works for both parties.

Why would she pay rent? They live together as husband and wife. I feel sorry for whatever girl agrees to marry you.

To have one person pay all the rent in any situation is ****** up.

Obviously I wouldn't do that and I doubt op's husband means it either, I just don't want my future wife to be a house wife it puts too much stress and pressure on me knowing that I'm a sole provider. But that's just me

Here's an idea. Get castrated and you won't have to worry about having kids or having a future housewife

Are you that hateful and stupid? I just want to make sure I can provide as much for my future family as I can as my parents did for me and it will be very hard to do that if only one person has a job. Do me a favour and grow some more brain cells

I am not the moron telling the OP to pay rent or get a job after having a child.

It's a joke you idiot he's not serious -.-

How do you know he is kidding ? My friends ex said something similar after she had her son. When she refused, he divorced her.

Generally speaking; unless husband and wife rarely see one another; child care costs would eat up any income that would be made by working outside of the home

Average cost for daycare is $150 a week, around $600 a month. My husband and I could never afford it, so I decided to become a stay at home mom/

You idiots were probably never hugged by your parents when you were little dont worry it's not the end of the world please complain more

Why? Men have been sole providers for thousands of years while women tended the home and family. That is a man's role. My husband makes a very nice 6 figure salary and I don't have to work, but I do because I want to. He isn't forcing me to "get a job and pay rent."

87: Aww, my parents loved me. They were strict, but fair.

I honestly don't know why this comment was thumbed down so much. He was basically just agreeing with OP. They both said that it would be reasonable if she hadn't just given birth.

It would be reasonable if they weren't married and wee roommates

*Were*

Maybe if the economy was as stable as it was all those decades ago post the Great Depression being a sole provider wouldn't be such a hard thing to do. Maybe if you Internet geeks got a taste of the real world you would know what I'm talking about...

I have a taste if the real world, little boy. I am a college graduate, married for 6 years, and have a 6 year old son. Come back to us when you get your GED.

Giving new meaning to the phrase "lease on life".

Charge? No, just hold it off..

#25 where on earth are you getting that OP'S husband is cheating?

That's a weird conclusion to jump to...what on earth would make you think that he's cheating on her!?

The sad thing is many countries have paid maternity leave, even in the Middle East.

That is sad.. I don't know how it works exactly in the U.S, I am from Latvia. Here, the woman gets 1 year paid for during pregnancy, and the husband works.

Here in the US, you can still get fired for being pregnant and only get unpaid maternity leave for only a few weeks.

Yeah the world could be better about pregnant ladies. I don'' know what it's like to be pregnant but I imagine it is not the greatest. My mom told me she had many sleepless nights during pregnancy, and the first year. i just hate the guys who walk out on their pregnant wives, if you wanna have sex, you need to watch out and know that pregnancy is a possibility.

My son just turned 6. When I was pregnant with him, his favorite thing to do was to kick me at night when I was trying to relax. I had a horrible time with giving birth to him and it took me around 4 months before I could even begin to think about getting a job.

Actually, most companies will give you paid maternity leave. Where I worked when my daughter was born, the mother could take twelve weeks paid maternity leave, and the father could take six weeks paid paternity leave. I could have taken the full twelve weeks, but only would have been paid for the six weeks.

I worked for Petsmart while pregnant with my son, they never gave me paid maternity leave. Many places don't.

One issue with mat leave is that she needs to have been working the job before she got pregnant or gave birth, so this doesn't help now. No one will hire her and immediately give mat leave. Some places give paternity leave if the wife hasn't taken mat leave.

The U.S. is utterly shitty about that--a lot of lip service given to how precious children are but not a lot of consideration given to the people who have to try to raise them. Sure there's FMLA, but that's unpaid leave, and not a lot of people can afford to go months without being paid. But OP lives in the UK, which hopefully has better maternity leave policies.

Yeah, the U.S. seems to be veering away from any sort of paid leave that involves not getting work out of the recipient (not to mention the disbandment of unions and employee-interest organizations). It's point-blank capitalism at work; in the general U.S., "If you don't work, you don't get paid." It's difficult enough for disabled and recently-unemployed citizens to get any sort of financial aid; pregnant women and new parents are on the low-priority side of that list.