No, she does not have liability on another persons decisions. If he kills himself over a break up that is his problem not her.

Yeah, except for the fact that people that make these kind of statements are generally unaware that they are doing something inherently wrong.... Usually, they are afraid of rejection or abandonment, which calls for psychiatric help that only a professional can provide.

^that's not always true. I had an ex who used it as blackmail, threatening the day after our breakup that he'd kill himself if I didn't get back with him. I did what I had to; I told his parents what he told me and advised them to get him help. he admitted the truth to his mom, who made a 17 year old kid write me an apology letter. I won't lie, it made a nasty breakup humorous and I felt awesome.

There is a difference between depressed and suicidal. Depression is the cause of suicide, but they are often on different levels. Just because you have a chemical disorder similar to the Op's (ex) friend does not mean you understand what causes him to act the way he does. I am not sure what to advise in this case. Op has a choice to make, she can be the toy of an emotionally unstable person or she can call in the calvery. While someone who is depressed might say "I hate myself and I want to die" someone who actively seeks death and threatens the well being of other people emotionally or physically needs to get help from a doctor. Call him on his bluff Op, call in some help and tell him you care about him but you are not dating and cannot deal with his issues if he is going to try and drag you down too.

One would think that the point of getting him help from a mental professional would be more to, you know, actually HELP him than to "teach him a lesson..."

Agreed.

Real suicidal people dont threaten or use it for attention. BS. If your statement was true, i know at least three people that would still be alive if people would have opened their ears and actually listened, and took action to help them.

Maybe I'm wrong then. But in my experience, the cry for help has never been "I'm going to kill myself" It's been things that when you look at them all together add up to that, but its not anyone actually saying that. Not to anyone's face anyways.

false. one of the major warning signs for suicide is a person saying they're going to do it, especially in teenagers.

Please note that I said "in my experience." Besides myself I have only known two other suicidal people well, and I only the the fourth person a little. That's not exactly a huge test group.

Yeah that's like the number one myth about suicide. Stop spouting ignorance and misinformation.

MY EXPERIENCE AS IN, the people I have been in contact with who were suicidal, myself included, DID NOT SAY ANYTHING. TWO went through with it. One I found out about years later. I get that apparently that isn't the norm, but that doesn't change my experiences.

I really could not care less about your experience. You agreed with "I think the whole "if he's saying it then he's not going to do it" thing about suicide is true. Real suicidal people don't threaten with it or use it for attention." and I simply asked for you both to stop talking BS. It's simple really, and your experience is really irrelevant to the request.

I agree with boat. Every emo kid in my highschool used to whine about how they were going to kill themselves every day, then shallow cut their wrists and come to school the next day with their sleeves rolled up to show them off. The one girl that /did/ kill herself never said anything to anyone about it.

It seems my post disappeared, but, star_ver 1) My experience IS relevant. We are discussing suicidal people. My experiences are with suicidal people. 2) I did agree with that, because I had no reason to believe that my experience was not the norm. When I was told I was wrong, I accepted that. If you scroll up you can see where I admitted it. No need to jump down my throat. I wasn't intentionally talking BS.

Not always. Don't generalize.