I wouldn't call it disrespectful, as long as it isn't kept a secret. When a guy watches ****, it doesn't automatically mean he's using it to replace his girlfriend, or that his girlfriend isn't good enough. It just means that he's using it to **********, which is pretty normal. I'm a girl and, although knowing that my boyfriend sometimes watches **** can sometimes make me a little jealous, I know that it's natural for him to want to do that and so I don't take it personally. I watch **** sometimes too, and I don't think that's disrespectful towards my boyfriend. I get why people are uncomfortable with it, but I don't think it's that big of a deal

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There's nothing wrong with a bit of stimulation. You can love someone to a full extent and enjoy ****. I used to get really mad at my boyfriend for it, and I realized when he showed true remorse for upsetting me that he really does care. I no longer being it up but it used to bother me a lot. We cannot act like we as human beings don't have urges to either looks at or read about other sexual encounters. It still bothers me a bit that people do things like that but i know it doesn't mean that your partner cares less or would pick that person over you. It's when it becomes an addiction that it's a problem