awh :[ sorry dude. that girl is a bitch.

Dude, that sucks. However, this is the reason why people should discuss the idea of marriage so both parties are on the same page. It'd probably prevent stuff like that from happening. Props for asking the dad for permission though, even if it was more for his blessing. It shows respect, and I'm sure if you hadn't gotten dumped, you would've had some great in-laws.

ouch. well i know this is a common line but there a lot of fish in the sea.

shittt , your life is fuckeddd . save your love for a better girl (:

If I found out my bf had asked my dad for permission to propose I'd dump him on the spot to. Who in their right mind would stay with a man that didn't respect them. You do know where the whole idea of asking a girl's father for permission to propose comes from don't you - Thats a tradtion thats only carried out when both the boyfriend and father think the woman is incapable of making her own decisions about marriage or consider her a piece of property. maybe next time you'll treat your girlfriend like a human being and you won't get dumped. She probably heard from her parents what a turd you were. Its 2009 - how idiotic do you have to be to even consider asking her dad to propose? Did you think your girlfriend was incapable of saying yes to you without her father telling her to say "yes." You deserved to be dumped

I don't care how well I liked you beforehand - if you are going to disrespect my family my ASKING me for permission to marry my daughter you will not be welcome in my house again. I certainly hope you were dumped because dad and mom let the daughter know you were thinking of her as chattel. Any man that thinks of his future wife as an equal would never dream of asking her parents permission to propose. There are two reasons to ask her dad's permission to marry 1) If you want to marry her dad and 2) if you are buying your wife. Your life was ****** the moment you asked her father for permission. Let us hope this girl can get a husband who thinks of her as an equal, instead of this jerk who didn't even trust her enough to be able to determine on her own if she wanted to marry him or not

18 It is also an old tradition that women be beaten by their husbands every time they raise their voice, or serve dinner late or cold, just so long as the stick they beat her with is not thicker than his thumb. Another long standing tradition, especially in deep areas of south, still in practice today, is that whites get first choice of jobs and seating in restaurants. Its also a long standing tradition that women aren't allowed to say "No" to sex with their husbands for any reasons and that they have no say in financial matters Why don't you look up the reasons for this tradition. No man who has any respect for the one he wants to marry would consider asking a father's permission, because the very nature of such an act shows that you feel your bride-to-be is of less intelligence and station in life than you. And if thats how he is treating her when is attempting to woo her, how do you think is going to treat her when the door is closed and he already has his piece of property? People try to be better than their best during the engagement stage - this guy is plastering the net with the fact that he sees the one he allegedly loves is just as much an equal to him as the car in his garage. "Can I borrow your car?" "can i marry your daughter?" Its absolutely sickenly how lowly people today still think of others. OP, Grow up. Women are humans, not cattle or cars - treat them as such and you won't be dumped!

"an hour earlier I had just gotten permission from her dad to propose." - You are a complete moron if you didn't know you would be dumped for doing this. Girls don't appreciate being treated like they are still in diapers

Agreed with #30. It's just a respect thing, as well as feeling out whether or not your in-laws aren't totally going to hate you. The girl can still say yes or no. My boyfriend has made it clear that he will be talking to my parents (well, my mom, my dad passed away recently) before he proposes to me. I'm fine with it. He's not "objectifying" me in any way, and it's not letting my parents make the decision for me either. It's not as if I'm going to call up my mom and ask her if it's all right before I accept. Maybe I'm just old-fashioned, but seriously, people get up in arms over the most ridiculous stuff. I mean, really. OP: Sucks that she dumped you, but I suppose it's better that it happened now than after you guys were engaged or married.

Think on the bright side - now she can get a boyfriend who will show a tiny little bit of respect for her, instead of one who thinks she's stupid he has to run and ask her daddy for permission to marry her